"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Woody Allen Approach

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No nothing to do with under age relatives:D

I'm just wondering how well he got laid before he was rich and famous?

I must admit I have a similar self depricating sense of humour and from what I've read here it's a bit of a no-no.

Having said that I can't help feeling he managed to laugh a few women into bed before he could buy girlfriends.

Any thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think you have a very good question. He's not the best lookingman in the world, so i think he gets women by being himself. He acts like he's comfortable being the wimpy looking guy, and he's confident enough in his uniqueness that he has no desire to change. this creates a reverse psyochology with women. They start to wonder why he's so confident even though his looks don't match up. Then you add the ****y funny aspect to it, and whammo!

I'm a girl and I'm attracted to this kind of guy along with the a confident goodlooking guy. The most attractive thing a man can have to me is "confidence" no matter what he looks like.
Seabreeze:)
 

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Yes, interesting point about the reverse psychology, so what you're saying is women think he's ultra-confident because he's quite happy taking the piss out of himself.

I must say though, I thought Woody Allen's general demina is not one of confidence, but one of total insecurity and self loathing, but there you go.

Hey Seabreeze where you been? I haven't had an intelligent response to my posts all week:D
 

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Thanks Alpine,

I know, to guys, Woody Allen doesn't look confident. You guys don't have to see it, but women do. It's hard to put into words what I'm talking about, but it really has a lot to do with a guy liking himself. I think a guy like Woody Allen would not have accomplished what he has without having a general comfortability with who he was as a man, as a person, and a woman can sense that in a man. He comes off as a guy who can take women or leave them, he's not trying to impress them, and that's the key here. He's attracted to them, but they must meet him on his terms (and I'm not talking about accepting his personality flaws). I'm talking about women just accepting him for the Woody that he is: a man, a Jewish man, a ****y funny man, a short man, a skinny man, a man who doesn't smile a lot but likes to make other people smile, etc.
SB:)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The only reason why women Woody had relationships with was that they fell in love with him. He is a very wimpy AFC type, but doesn't seem like a chump who'd let people run over him. His type would attract only wimpy afc type girls.

People like the familiar, if you start changing the way you dress and the possessions, they feel threatened. Always downplay it because you know you're still the same person even though you may act/look different when you improve yourself. I didn't do this and this brought insecurity to a lot of people. I didn't go back to acting like my usual self either, I just downplay it or tell them that change is normal and I'm still the same though.
 

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Maybe what Seabreeze is trying to say is that a guy like Woody Allen, no matter how dorky he is, is incredibly comfortable in his skin and accepts and uses his personality traits and quirks instead of trying to hide them or compensate for them. And maybe he has a big d1ck......I dunno.
 

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Scrum...

Bingo baby!

Seabreeze;)
P.S. Size doesn't matter.
 

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It also helps that he is one of the most gifted comedians of the last 20 years. If you are legitimately funny (and I am not talking about the usual C & F stuff) that is a huge aphodiasiac to women, Even third rate comedians have really hot girlfriends. I think the reason is because humor hits people a gut, emotional level, not an intelectual level. Women really respond to that.
 

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I should have been a stand up, I do look funny so I'd be off to a good start.

But you really need balls, it's got to be up there with approaching a Nicole Kidman or handfeeding Siegrfreed's Tiger.

If you have the courage to do that, you probably can approach any women. Apparently, public speaking is the most common social phobia.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Woody Allen is a fuccing pedophile pervert.

He ended up MARRYING his adopted daughter after he raised her. Wtf thats as AFC as it gets. pedo.
 

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People should stop trying to copy the exceptions to the rule and stick with what works until you get really good...Who knows if Woody Allen got play before he was famous and how he did, just look at the proven working methods...
 

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Yeah its where your dad met your mom.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That's right they, got married in Minneapolis, but at least my parents are married.

eeh awww eeh awww
 
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