"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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the way i have been dealing with rejection.

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i came across this artical on this site.

mistakes when approaching women

it got me thinking about my game in relation to being rejected. for some reason, i have ALWAYS dealt with this badly. i would ALWAYS at like a idiot to turn the girls off me. i do it all the time with my girl friends now. i never noticed this before. i mean. i knew i was acting out. but it didn't have a big impact.

but then i though. why do this? why play my WORST game against girls when i can play my BEST game and play off my competitiveness instead of insecurities.

I am a competitive guy. i like to win and win big. so how do i win? by getting the hottest girl in the club! before i would just lay down. like a beaten dog, because i felt like i wasn't "worthy" of being on top. so i would never get the girl. but who likes loosing? not me! i am going to win! and get the girl I WANT! and no one else is going to get in my way!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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yeah. lately i have been gaming my friend. it's kind of pathetic. she has a bf and all. she has like no interested in me at all. yet something goes off in my brain and i try badly hitting on her.

i really need to look outside the box and not just in the box marked: i am horny therefor i need sex.
 

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rejection is when your wife of 7 years looks you in the eyes and tells you she doesn't love you anymore and wants a divorce

someone you just met who doesn't know you can't reject you
 

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Aaron B said:
rejection is when your wife of 7 years looks you in the eyes and tells you she doesn't love you anymore and wants a divorce

someone you just met who doesn't know you can't reject you
yeah she can. it just hurts less
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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