"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is it cool to slip my number to the same waittress that my cousin tried to but failed?

I wasn't with him at the time but she wasn't interested, my family was though. Today I went back to that same place with my mom for breakfast and she was helping us, my mom jokingly apologized to her about my cousin giving her his number, she said "Ah, he meant well though", lol. My cousin is about 3 years older than me(33) but he comes off as kind of immature, she actually thought he was much younger than what he was. She was definitely cute so I introduced myself to her, asked her name. We would make small talk and she made several efforts to keep pouring me coffee even after I took a few sips and my cup was still relatively full. Everytime she would stop what she was doing and talk to me for a little bit.

She wasn't interested in my cousin but I think she could've been in me. Would it be alright to slip her my number the next time I'm there, or could it cause friction if we do get together and he sees me with her? I'm thinking go for it because she never did call him but at the same time that's family and there are plenty of girls out there.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i work in a restaurant and i will say this, if you do do that, you should be really sure she likes you and is not just being wicked nice to get extra tips, because they will often take it, take your money then laugh at you.

then they bring the numbers to me in the kitchen when im doing the dishes and show them to me and they laugh, i think its mean but thats just me.

but then again, if your gut says go for it, i would
 

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she's a hired gun. Waitresses will talk to you, flirt with you, pretend to like you because that's their job. They want you to stay, be comfortable, and spend money (not only does this make them look good to management but it drives your bill up which increases the tip you give them). Why isn't this common knowledge, there's a reason that bars like to have women servers, because guys buy more from them.
 

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Kal0051 said:
she's a hired gun. Waitresses will talk to you, flirt with you, pretend to like you because that's their job. They want you to stay, be comfortable, and spend money (not only does this make them look good to management but it drives your bill up which increases the tip you give them). Why isn't this common knowledge, there's a reason that bars like to have women servers, because guys buy more from them.
the restaurant i worked at has never had a male server, ever
 

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Kal0051 said:
she's a hired gun. Waitresses will talk to you, flirt with you, pretend to like you because that's their job. They want you to stay, be comfortable, and spend money (not only does this make them look good to management but it drives your bill up which increases the tip you give them). Why isn't this common knowledge, there's a reason that bars like to have women servers, because guys buy more from them.
Same thing with strippers and female bank tellers, car dealers, administrative/ dental assistants, etc. This is one reason why women worry about their looks so much. They make the company look better and they know men who enter want to try and holla at them. So they're ready with the attention wh0re facade and b**ch shields and IHAB. If you do get their #, they may flake unless you really stood out. Women know how to be d**kteases, and they'll do it!

Why the hell do you think Hooters' girls and other waitresses show a more cleavage than normal? And in restaurants, most of the guys are hidden in the back of the house, cooking. I was one of them. Cooks who work in the restaurant have a slight advantage (Key word) over the male customers who try to pay for play but they pay for plate and pray for play!

I make no apologies for that tongue twister, but the point is, some guys may luck out and get the hookup, but hired guns are called that so they can free your wallet and shoot it, so the money bleeds out. Who gets chosen, you or your money? Disarm their game if allowed to do so.

Getting a # can be an ego boost but in reality, useless! Unless you call and make a move, because there are about 13 other guys from that same day, not including those from the previous week and her time spent in the club or whatever. That makes the girl have hella options. Call or no call, she don't give a f**k! She gets male attention daily!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TL79 said:
Is it cool to slip my number to the same waittress that my cousin tried to but failed?
Your whole OP is full of fail.
Slip your number? What makes you think you are going to fail any differently?

All these threads about "gaming" female bartenders/waitresses are laughable at best.

If you really are interested in her, then stop taking the easy way out. ASK for her number. Don't slip her your number. Do that in a week you'll be posting about how she was throwing out IOI's like crazy but hasn't called you and whether you should go back to the restaurant to see what's up.

I'd much rather spend time somewhere else gaming than a "server" expecting monetary tips.
 

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nismo-4 said:
And in restaurants, most of the guys are hidden in the back of the house, cooking.
yep, most restaurants will only use the best looking, most presentable guys in the front of house (I'm one of those guys, but I've also been to some places that only have women in certain parts of the restaurant). But almost all the guys are only allowed in the kitchen.
 

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You can tell if they like you by if they give you free food. They will also act stupid, nervous, and be flirting, just like in real life.
 
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