The Waiting Game

[member162951]

I have ALOT of haters on here. Does this thread apply to me? Lol

Oops sorry @Hacker ! I mixed you up with the OP, @sosuave213 , I just changed my post.

 

[sosuave213]

Oops sorry @Hacker ! I mixed you up with the OP, @sosuave213 , I just changed my post.

@BackInTheGame78 is my daddy, therefore, daddy must criticize.

It's my 5th date with this girl in a few hours. Will update.

 

[sosuave213]

She's a narcissist. Love bombed to all hell, and today she pulls the rug and begins to devalue me.

It was one of the chittiest dates I've had in a long time. And on top of that, the red flags came out: is doing a bunch of girls night out (and says she has many girl friends), is going on a business trip soon, and put me in the "making this guy wait for sex" box today. Yep, I got shut down, got told lame excuses like "I have an early pilates class tomorrow!" And I'm never dating a girl that does pilates again, phuck this. (They're the most intense relationships akin to doing crack - good luck once it ends, because it will be the worst hell you will ever imagine.) Imagine getting in a relationship with a girl who's doing girls night out, amongst a bunch of other red flags. This stinks, I haven't written a long ass paragraph like this in a while, but I think I'm done with OLD. She was like "you didn't text me a day or two after [we had sex 8 times]?" And began to treat me like the chittiest person on the planet for a mistake like this. Lol, **** this I'm running for the hills. Thanks for the memories!!

My mistake was also seeing her way too often, way too soon. I had 4 dates in 2 weeks. The only girls that are going to agree to such a frequency are girls that squirrels. Yep, that's what I'm calling them. Their emotions are scattered like acorns on a green. Rebounds, psychological issues and general ratchets. Good God, and I'm an enabler of that. I didn't control myself with my neediness, so I attracted someone just as needy as me! And look where it got me. I'm going to bed. I feel like an athlete who just lost one of the biggest games of his life. ****.

 

[Learning Curve]

She reached out after 5 days. See screenshots. Seeing her later.

Good.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

I wouldn't let #2 happen but I wouldn't mind being #1.

From your post above, #2 happened dude. Gotta lose the ego and pride first if you really want to elevate.

You might think your conversation is authoritative and all the surface level games were played right to think it’s frame - but women can pick up on your scent.

Diving back into this thread with BITG78’s assessment, he ultimately was right because he listened to you and played the board…not the game. He smelled your desperation and knew the outcome - not because there wasn’t a door you could have walked through and proved him wrong…but because he knew you were gonna walk through the door that led you to the current standings…because the thread is the admittance of oneitis.

Just gotta learn from it.

 

[sosuave213]

From your post above, #2 happened dude. Gotta lose the ego and pride first if you really want to elevate.

You might think your conversation is authoritative and all the surface level games were played right to think it’s frame - but women can pick up on your scent.

Diving back into this thread with BITG78’s assessment, he ultimately was right because he listened to you and played the board…not the game. He smelled your desperation and knew the outcome - not because there wasn’t a door you could have walked through and proved him wrong…but because he knew you were gonna walk through the door that led you to the current standings…because the thread is the admittance of oneitis.

Just gotta learn from it.

I have to better myself first if I have any chance of defeating oneitis.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

@BackInTheGame78 is my daddy, therefore, daddy must criticize.

It's my 5th date with this girl in a few hours. Will update.

"Daddy" was right as usual.

 

[obelisk]

Sorry it didn't work out. Go where you are treated best. If she had burning desire for you, her pilates class would have been a distant memory to her as she tried to get together and sleep with you. Chalk it up to the game and a bullet dodged before wasting more time.

 

[sosuave213]

Sorry it didn't work out. Go where you are treated best. If she had burning desire for you, her pilates class would have been a distant memory to her as she tried to get together and sleep with you. Chalk it up to the game and a bullet dodged before wasting more time.

Definitely a bullet dodged. Pilates wasn't an excuse before. And in fact, was never an excuse for the first pilates jedi I dated. Only when she started to lose interest was the squirreliest of excuses bubbling up to the surface. I'm really glad I didn't get her pregnant (she said she has her period during the date when I asked) even after raw dogging her 12 times in 2 days. Man? I was so far gone I wanted to *** in her. She kept saying no...thankfully, I listened. Crack (I mean, BPD, narcissistic and/or cluster B women) are one helluva drug.

 

[member162951]

I don't buy that she wasn't into you. Obviously she was at some point, no woman I know gets that pissed off calling you an "a$$hole, you didn't call me for a week!" without there being some emotion and even negative emotion is still emotion.

The opposite of love is not anger or hate, it's indifference.

What I think may have happened is she's a savvy girl and she was on to your game, and simply didn't want to play/got bored playing.

That's the risk you take with quality girls when you game too hard.

 

[sosuave213]

I don't buy that she wasn't into you. Obviously she was at some point, no woman I know gets that pissed off calling you an "a$$hole, you didn't call me for a week!" without there being some emotion and even negative emotion is still emotion.

The opposite of love is not anger or hate, it's indifference.

What I think may have happened is she's a savvy girl and she was on to your game, and simply didn't want to play/got bored playing.

That's the risk you take with quality girls when you game too hard.

She was into me, and still was on the date, but she could have also texted me if she wasn't playing games.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don't buy that she wasn't into you. Obviously she was at some point, no woman I know gets that pissed off calling you an "a$$hole, you didn't call me for a week!" without there being some emotion and even negative emotion is still emotion.

The opposite of love is not anger or hate, it's indifference.

What I think may have happened is she's a savvy girl and she was on to your game, and simply didn't want to play/got bored playing.

That's the risk you take with quality girls when you game too hard.

The bottom line is he wasnt her first choice. He was the backup to the backup to the backup. He was the guy she saw when she had nothing better to do.

 

[member162951]

She was into me, and still was on the date, but she could have also texted me if she wasn't playing games.

Not if she thought you were a "player" or playing games yourself.

Some of you guys need to get rid of the utterly misguided notion that when chick is interested, she will chase.

Absolutely unequivocally NOT true.

Sure some might, the ones with low self worth and esteem and perhaps 75% of women are this way.

But not always, especially if they have emotional intelligence, abundance and two brain cells to rub together.

For them, eventually it's a yawn and they will move on.

 

[sosuave213]

Not if she thought you were a "player" or playing games yourself.

Some of you guys need to get rid of the utterly misguided notion that when chick is interested, she will chase.

Absolutely unequivocally NOT true.

Sure some might, the ones with low self worth and esteem and perhaps 75% of women are this way.

But not always, especially if they have emotional intelligence, abundance and two brain cells to rub together.

For them, eventually it's a yawn and they will move on.

But are we going to ignore the fact she brought up las vegas weekend getaways and a bachelorette party in the next 3 months? I didn't mention that in the OP. She also exhibited traits of a narcissistic woman. No amount of compliments and re-assurance is enough, besides her touting herself as the prize. I mistook it as confidence at first until me complimenting her was not meant with "thanks".

 

[kenpiffyjr]

Sure those are all red flags for a relationship…

…but your #1 priority should be piping this chick down every time you get the chance. The game should be seeing how nasty you can get her, not the vibe I’m getting that you wanna be boo’d and cuddled up with her first.

She’s noticing you’re gazing at her with early relationship eyes when she just wants to be slu*ted out first and then see if you have a natural and honest interest in whatever she got going on and her lifestyle needs second. Most of my past failures in this game is because I stopped focusing on piping the chick down as the first priority and only priority when necessary.

The worst that happens is she realizes you can’t fully give the latter and she keeps you on the side to a guy who initially does both and then possibly forgets about the former…bc she remembers you slu*ted her out as your only priority.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

But are we going to ignore the fact she brought up las vegas weekend getaways and a bachelorette party in the next 3 months? I didn't mention that in the OP. She also exhibited traits of a narcissistic woman. No amount of compliments and re-assurance is enough, besides her touting herself as the prize. I mistook it as confidence at first until me complimenting her was not meant with "thanks".

Yup. Another common tactic to try and see how invested you are right away.

Overly invested on your part equals you have no other options and are too easily obtained.

No woman wants to be with a man who is no challenge and is only with her because they have no other options.

You interpret these things to be positives, but when does this early on they are almost always traps and you walked right into them.

Their goal is to disqualify men as quickly as possible so they don't waste time on them when they have other potential options available.