I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Luke Skywalker said:What makes it a female term?
A guy that has never been inside a woman before is a virgin, just like a woman that never had a man inside her is a virgin.
Why so certain its looks that's preventing people from having sex? I know people who look like Brad yet still don't know how to talk to women.The Logical Player said:I am honestly dumbfounded, at how men/boys who very very clearly need improvement in the appearance department, are just plain ignorant to the FACT that success is a trickle-down effect, and until YOU FEEL that you look like hot shyt, you will not have the success that you are after
and this is where we have these obviously wise-cracking internet virgins, as if posting a photo on this forum will somehow make their lives worse (its not like they have women in their life, so who are they afraid will see the shyt they post? And its not like women even visit this site!).
I used to look like shyt, and then I improved that on the advice of my best friend at the time. Clearly, those of you who know what to do and how to do it, but still have ZERO sex (aka still are a virgin), those are the ones who need to start taking this thread seriously, post your photos up, and I will give each of you a genuine breakdown of what needs to be done to boost up your appearance to the point where you look in the mirror, and you WANT to go out and share your c$ck with some lucky girl
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
DonJuan11 said:Why so certain its looks that's preventing people from having sex? I know people who look like Brad yet still don't know how to talk to women.
It is a little suspicious that you are so focused on looks and desperately want pictures posted of people so you can help them score with girls. You don't care about anything else, the way they talk, their education, their family, you just want pictures. Something is not right.
I agree that they are some people with good looks that still have girl troubles sometimes it goes beyond your gear. I also believe that most virgins do have a appearance problem though and that is only a reflection of their state of mind. Logical are you and elstud brothers? If I needed any fashion tips I would probably ask dj dan because he showed every1 proof of his fashion sense and posted pictures.DonJuan11 said:Why so certain its looks that's preventing people from having sex? I know people who look like Brad yet still don't know how to talk to women.
I must say I'm impressed. I would never have guessed our posts would have an impact on your thinking luke. You have no idea how much of a big step you just made. Good luck!Luke Skywalker said:March 3, 2009. This is the continuation of a virtual story or account of myself on here. It transcends any threads that may have been closed off (Renewed Goals thread, or even long and winding threads such as 'Quest to Get Laid', Lessons Learned this Year', etc...) Now this can be posted on to any thread. This one is selected.
I've decided that I'm a virgin because of my set-up, or my c0ckblocking parents rather than not being attractive to women or being rejected (although I don't feel I'm a stud, successful or get high-interest from most attractive and sane women which doesn't help). I don't feel posting a picture on here is going to help as long as my parents are pulling the strings of who I'm going out with or my dating life as a whole. Plus, the econonomy is bad, have to focus on where I'm going business-wise and feel women are simply a distraction.
So for starters, I know what I'm going to do:
1) Stop talking about my love life with my mom or asking mom permission (or dad) of who to see or date.
2) Record any instance where I'm 'hiding behind my mom or dad' as to avoid potential rejection from women -- that's usually a personal vice. Will look for excuses to stick to parents and avoid women.
3) Consider new activities where I could meet women, without consulting parents about them, other than saying I'm going wherever.
4) Do not ask mom persmission to eat any food at home or to do any stupid thing where I feel I need my mom's moral support to protect myself from over-indulgence (i.e. eating too much in the home, or otherwise having fun in here), or in other ways act like a child and hug her too many times.
******
I'm fully committed to breaking the addiction of fully relying on my parents emotionally and psychologically.
Daddy The Pimp said:Man i know that you're just trying to help , but noone will post here a picture unless you post some of yours that prove that you're the player that you're saying.
Also , unfortunately , most of these peoples are KBJ. They don't want self-improvement ,they don't want anything that will cost them time and dedication. They only want to read and INSTANTLY become good with women. Or read to boost their EGO's , to make themselves think " I KNOW ALOT ABOUT WOMENS , I HAVE GAME ".
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I personally think he's gay. :flowers:Solomon said:lol @ these "players" infesting the board, lol @ the OP, ha ha ha
is it just me or is he a troll?
The Original Poster is a troll. Less than week on this forum and he is already talking down on everybody?its a little suspicious that you post like a know-it-all despite being an adult virgin.
you don't want help dweeb? then get off this forum
what the f*ck you doing in this place if you aren't seeking TRUE HELP in getting women?
same goes for the rest of you who fall into the know-it-all virgin catergory
and this thread isnt about ME posting pics, i could post dozens of pics, but the topic at hand is PHOTOS OF VIRGINS FOR ME TO HELP THEM IMPROVE THEIR APPEARANCE - IN OTHER WORDS FOR ME TO PIMP UP THEIR APPEARANCE
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
1) wtf?Luke Skywalker said:So for starters, I know what I'm going to do:
1) Stop talking about my love life with my mom or asking mom permission (or dad) of who to see or date.
2) Record any instance where I'm 'hiding behind my mom or dad' as to avoid potential rejection from women -- that's usually a personal vice. Will look for excuses to stick to parents and avoid women.
3) Consider new activities where I could meet women, without consulting parents about them, other than saying I'm going wherever.
4) Do not ask mom persmission to eat any food at home or to do any stupid thing where I feel I need my mom's moral support to protect myself from over-indulgence (i.e. eating too much in the home, or otherwise having fun in here), or in other ways act like a child and hug her too many times.
******
I'm fully committed to breaking the addiction of fully relying on my parents emotionally and psychologically.
lol no idea. I just try to make sure their color fits my clothes.MisterMcGee said:are those socks cotton?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.