"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The urge to call...

baurman

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After I had sex with this chick, I dropped her off...Told her to call me tonight. She didn't. So I didn't call her. The next day I called her once in the afternoon, no answer. Didn't call her again. She hasn't called me back. I am having a urge to call her again but I'm forcing myself not too. Is she playing mind games or what? I'm thinking of not calling but then who's to know if she'll call me again. Should I just keep fighting it and not call her or do I just wait another day or two to call again? The only problem is that eventually I'll want to meet up with her and have sex again so I really want to keep in touch.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Andromax

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I'm assuming that you have no desire to pursue a relationship with this woman?
Mind games aside if she was into you she would have called.
As far as FWB, give her a call in a few days. If she doesn't call back its pretty obvious you got dumped. Move on. You don't need that ****.
 

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yeah...she's not a chick I want a relationship with, but i want to keep her on the side to fvck when I want too
 

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Whenever possible, AVOID telling a woman to call you. They usually won't do it

If you already tried calling her once, then she knows you're not just being an assh0le who won't call. Wait at least a week before trying again. And look for more chicks in the meantime.

And yeah, chances are she's blown you off. She's a hor; what do you expect? You can't have any serious dealings with a prostitute.
 

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Yeah, next time tell her that you'll call her, keep the ball in your court. Otherwise you'll be like you are; waiting for her call, which gives her the upper hand.

I'd go on with life for the next target, maybe call in a week.

Let us know how it goes!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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baurman said:
After I had sex with this chick, I dropped her off...Told her to call me tonight. She didn't. So I didn't call her. The next day I called her once in the afternoon, no answer. Didn't call her again. She hasn't called me back. I am having a urge to call her again but I'm forcing myself not too. Is she playing mind games or what? I'm thinking of not calling but then who's to know if she'll call me again. Should I just keep fighting it and not call her or do I just wait another day or two to call again? The only problem is that eventually I'll want to meet up with her and have sex again so I really want to keep in touch.
You told her to call? Are you the guy or the girl in the relationship?
 

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At least I learned something today... The reason I told her to call me is so that I don't look bad when I end up not calling her. But you guys are right. Just like how I'm the one who asks for her number (not give my number) I will be in control when I say "I'll call you tomorrow" or something.

But since she's a wh0re....If we don't talk for like a week or two, and I end up calling I still think she'd be down to kick it and inevitably fvcking again.

i always thought if you call you are weaker cause you are catering to her...so it makes you seem like you always are calling.
 
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DonJuan11 said:
You told her to call? Are you the guy or the girl in the relationship?
I like that. Telling a woman to call you is like telling her, "Penetrate me." It just doesn't make much sense.
 

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GRR I just told a girl to CALL ME last week....Fvck why didnt you make this thread earlier!!!!!! I'll call her tomorrow and set something up if she makes up something to get out of it again then fvck the b1tch but at least I know now. Thanks for the tip.
 

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DJing 101 - NEVER expect the girl to be the aggressor.

By telling HER to call YOU, she has to become the aggressor. Chicks don't dig that and what you'll find is that they never will call. Experienced PUA's have a thing that sets them aside from AFC's - PATIENCE. By jumping the gun, you have set yourself up for disappointment. Here's my advice: DON'T DO THAT!! Grow a pair and learn to wait it out. Right now you're in bad shape by telling her this and furthermore, when she gave you the message that she wasn't into you by not calling you back - YOU WENT AHEAD AND CALLED HER. That was begging, a no nonsense tactic toward ending things between the two of you. Dude, it's game over - find another one.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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HAHA if your talking to me ok I understand it wasnt that bad of a loss just some pretty big t1ts but other then that she had nothing ok I'll remember next time.
 

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j0n024 said:
HAHA if your talking to me ok I understand it wasnt that bad of a loss just some pretty big t1ts but other then that she had nothing ok I'll remember next time.
I was writing to the original poster but I think everyone can learn from this. Learning from other people's mistakes is a safer approach.
 
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