"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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the unofficial telephone thread

swaptrex

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i think we as dj's should have a thread devoted to the telephone, by this i mean this thread should contain-

*what to do after the number close and problems often seen

*experiences with girls when it comes to the phone

*advice to other dj's for all phone related activity

*what to do about phone games and why girls play them

*voicemails

*etc


i will start by saying the phone is my number one weakness when speaking of girls, i dislike it very much. i also wish the bs with most girls in the beginning could be put aside and we could all act like adults. i always have a problem with this: say i get a girls number and had good raport with that girl. i call her two to three days later(thanks dj's) and don't set up anything with her yet for certain reasons. how long should i wait to make the second call? without seeming desperate? i think i don't call girls enough when i make something with them, i always say "i'll call the next day" and that turns into two weeks and then it is to late. i am not nervous, just hate talking on the phone and hate leaving messages. also when you leave a message, i suppose it is short and brief and what should be said? should a deep voice be used?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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All of this is contained in the DJ bible.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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This thread was an actual request?
 

swaptrex

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and half the other stuff in this forum isn't? why not make a thread about it...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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swaptrex said:
why not make a thread about it...
The DJ Bible is fairly exhaustive regarding phone activity. I don't think that there is much to be added since proper DJing shouldn't really rely on the phone except to set-up real life meetings, at least during the attraction stage. There is little new information that would be really helpful.
 
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