"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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the unofficial telephone thread

swaptrex

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i think we as dj's should have a thread devoted to the telephone, by this i mean this thread should contain-

*what to do after the number close and problems often seen

*experiences with girls when it comes to the phone

*advice to other dj's for all phone related activity

*what to do about phone games and why girls play them

*voicemails

*etc


i will start by saying the phone is my number one weakness when speaking of girls, i dislike it very much. i also wish the bs with most girls in the beginning could be put aside and we could all act like adults. i always have a problem with this: say i get a girls number and had good raport with that girl. i call her two to three days later(thanks dj's) and don't set up anything with her yet for certain reasons. how long should i wait to make the second call? without seeming desperate? i think i don't call girls enough when i make something with them, i always say "i'll call the next day" and that turns into two weeks and then it is to late. i am not nervous, just hate talking on the phone and hate leaving messages. also when you leave a message, i suppose it is short and brief and what should be said? should a deep voice be used?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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S1NN3R

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All of this is contained in the DJ bible.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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This thread was an actual request?
 

swaptrex

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and half the other stuff in this forum isn't? why not make a thread about it...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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S1NN3R

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swaptrex said:
why not make a thread about it...
The DJ Bible is fairly exhaustive regarding phone activity. I don't think that there is much to be added since proper DJing shouldn't really rely on the phone except to set-up real life meetings, at least during the attraction stage. There is little new information that would be really helpful.
 
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