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I was just given some information/feedback from a friend/acquaintance that I am not sure if it is a good or bad thing... it could be both.
The thing is, I have pretty high standards. As an example, an 8 or 9 to most other guys is probably a 7 or 8 to me, and so on. I'm also not a horn-dog that needs to get laid everyday, so my game isn't focused around that nor do I "settle" for the 7 when I could be gaming that 8, if you know what I mean. But I'm wondering if this is starting to bite me in the ass. I'll explain to you what was said to me and then you can let me know what you think.
First a brief background: I'm very busy with school, and my current major and classes have me spending a lot of time with fellow majors, as we all take the same classes at this point. It's kind of like when you start a new job, and start hanging out with people from that job -- I hang out a lot with people in my department. As much as I enjoy getting out and gaming other people, often times because of my schedule, I game mostly people within my department. This isn't bad, as I spend a lot of time with ballet dancers and they are a bunch of hotties. But the point being, when you spend time with the same people, you start to develop "reputations" that are vital in good and bad ways, that don't hold any value when you are around completely new people and what not.
Anyway. Case in point: If you've read my previous post, you know that I was at a big party last night. I actually wasn't even gaming that hard, but it was flowing left and right beautifully. Got a few numbers and a basic hook-up out of the night. Well, I just talked to that person I mentioned above, and she brought up the fact that I am "unattainable." At first this struck me as odd, but I urged her to continue and how she came to this conclusion. She says, "Well after talking with people last night, you've gained the reputation as the "unattainable guy" in the department. Quite honestly I was taken aback for a bit, but it makes sense; I'm not a "player" and I don't sleep around, or like I said, settle. And there have been a few girls in the department that were clearly interested in me, either on their own accord, or after I gamed them for a bit... all of which I decided not to continue with because I was no longer interested for one reason or another.
Now this "unattainable" reputation could hold good or bad weight, or both, from how I see it. For starters, it is a testament to my high standards -- I'm not just hooking up with any old girl. At the same time though, maybe I am TOO unattainable, and girls hate that s***, as if it's too hard to win you then they give up early.
What do you guys think? I'm not about to go sleep around or try to "change" this reputation or whatever as all I'm doing is being "me," the authentic me. But at the same time I'm wondering if I should lighten up a bit so people don't view me in such a way that they don't even bother with me, if ya know what I mean.
Your thoughts!
The thing is, I have pretty high standards. As an example, an 8 or 9 to most other guys is probably a 7 or 8 to me, and so on. I'm also not a horn-dog that needs to get laid everyday, so my game isn't focused around that nor do I "settle" for the 7 when I could be gaming that 8, if you know what I mean. But I'm wondering if this is starting to bite me in the ass. I'll explain to you what was said to me and then you can let me know what you think.
First a brief background: I'm very busy with school, and my current major and classes have me spending a lot of time with fellow majors, as we all take the same classes at this point. It's kind of like when you start a new job, and start hanging out with people from that job -- I hang out a lot with people in my department. As much as I enjoy getting out and gaming other people, often times because of my schedule, I game mostly people within my department. This isn't bad, as I spend a lot of time with ballet dancers and they are a bunch of hotties. But the point being, when you spend time with the same people, you start to develop "reputations" that are vital in good and bad ways, that don't hold any value when you are around completely new people and what not.
Anyway. Case in point: If you've read my previous post, you know that I was at a big party last night. I actually wasn't even gaming that hard, but it was flowing left and right beautifully. Got a few numbers and a basic hook-up out of the night. Well, I just talked to that person I mentioned above, and she brought up the fact that I am "unattainable." At first this struck me as odd, but I urged her to continue and how she came to this conclusion. She says, "Well after talking with people last night, you've gained the reputation as the "unattainable guy" in the department. Quite honestly I was taken aback for a bit, but it makes sense; I'm not a "player" and I don't sleep around, or like I said, settle. And there have been a few girls in the department that were clearly interested in me, either on their own accord, or after I gamed them for a bit... all of which I decided not to continue with because I was no longer interested for one reason or another.
Now this "unattainable" reputation could hold good or bad weight, or both, from how I see it. For starters, it is a testament to my high standards -- I'm not just hooking up with any old girl. At the same time though, maybe I am TOO unattainable, and girls hate that s***, as if it's too hard to win you then they give up early.
What do you guys think? I'm not about to go sleep around or try to "change" this reputation or whatever as all I'm doing is being "me," the authentic me. But at the same time I'm wondering if I should lighten up a bit so people don't view me in such a way that they don't even bother with me, if ya know what I mean.
Your thoughts!