ehm.. in the post you tell that "If she touches you she are intressted in you" but i see she touch everybody.. what does that mean? she touch me on my neck, givme a hug.. tickel me.. and so do she do that on my friends and other people
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
fudge yeah......i know this sounds kinda brokeback mountain but i use kino on men too.......i'm secure with my self enough to admit it and if you don't believe me, try it!!!Berlex said:Do you guys use kino at work?
Hah I didn't realize how old this thread was. Anyways, I have a question about this 8 year old post lol.trickynick said:T Dog,
All things condsidered this is a good post and I am sure it will help a lot of people. One thing however that was not mentioned that I myself did not understand at the time I wrote the post you quoted me on was that kino is an anchor. Anchors are what you set up as manifestations of certain emotional states in her mind.
For example, if you get into a conversation about feelings of an incredible connection that excites her visibly to you, you can touch her arm or shoulder at that moment which sets up that kind of touch from you as an anchor for those feelings she is experiencing at the time you do it. In the future, you can use that same touch as a way to awaken the feelings you have anchored it once again.
Just be aware of how things are going and she is feeling at the time you kino her. Anchoring the wrong feelings the wrong way can lead to badly botched kino.
Just wanted to add that, but good job on the post.
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You either own the game or it owns you!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.