"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The typical "She has a boyfriend"

faiNt`

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This is going to be a fairly long story because you need to know what's going on before you can make a judgment call.

I'm a sophomore in highschool now. I've known about this girl since beginning of freshman year, but I didn't notice anything special about her because we didn't talk. I do often see a girl and think "Wow ..nice" or whatnot, but I can honestly say I've never felt that about this girl till she started talking to me.

I play basketball for my school, and so when I would stay after for practice or games, occationally she would hang out with me till one of us had to leave. Now rememeber, she has a boyfriend from this point on .. First time we met was roughly two months ago, I'm sitting doing homework waiting for practice, and she comes over to me and doesn't know my name, so she asks. I tell her, then she asks if I know her name, and of course I do seeing as she's rather popular.

Next time we end up hanging out she sits on my lap. I figured it was obvious there, but being the idiot I am, I did nothing. So I figure I'll find out a little more about her before I do anything. Another time hanging out after school starts asking me if I like anyone .. I gave her the "Nahhh .. *smile* " type of thing. She caught on right away and started asking me non-stop for literally weeks. It sucks when you're afraid of rejection (N).

Alright so after all this happens, basketball ends and I figure I wouldn't be hanging out with her anymore since I'm not staying after school. Wrong - within a few days I ended up going over her house because I was waiting for a ride to an appointment.

At her house - we chilled in her basement .. alone. She and I played pool and of course she starts the game on trying to figure out who I like. Now, this is the killer. She says this exactly (remember has has a fvcking boyfriend =\)

"Ok, you dare me to do something, and then you have to give me a hint to who it is."

I reply, "What am I supposed to dare you to do?"

She said something like, "Oh idk .."

And of course, being the AFC, I left it at that. When I was leaving her house I asked her for her number, because she said we needed to hang out this weekend TWICE. I figured if she said it once, I'd take it as just something to say, but twice is different. (When I did call her to ask her to chill with me, she made it into a 10 second convo where she hung up on me and didn't call back because her phone 'died' or some BS.)

When I did ask her for her phone number she said something along the lines of
"So X, are you prude?"
"Nope" *smile*
"How far?"
I tell her, and I don't know why, but I don't ask her the same thing.

Advice on what I'm supposed to do now would be helpful, I'm not even sure she likes me, but then again isn't it SO COMPLETELY OBVIOUS?

Funniest thing is I didn't even think about her once sexually until she showed me her personality. I'd say 7 or 8 on looks; 10 on personality.

EDIT:// forgot something
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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john paul

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Shes got a boyfriend. So you can either not care becuase it is only high school and make a move on her or stop talking to her until they break up. Asking her to break up with her boyfriend wont work.

So the bottem line is if you dont care about the boyfriend then make a move.

If she was hot enough and i didnt respect the guy i would do it.
 

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Bump, need more opinions
 

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Start flirting....lots of playful teasing, lots of kino. And next time she gives you a window, GO THROUGH IT!!!!!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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john paul said:
Shes got a boyfriend. So you can either not care becuase it is only high school and make a move on her or stop talking to her until they break up. Asking her to break up with her boyfriend wont work.

So the bottem line is if you dont care about the boyfriend then make a move.

If she was hot enough and i didnt respect the guy i would do it.
HELLO! My Method! *Hi-5*

You should still make moves. And don't alienate the bf, that'll give off the desperation vibe. Be cool and the bf might do some dumb sh*t to where a breakup occurs. This is where you really strike the hot iron. But show you're a lover, not a wimp AFC aka those who fall in the friend zone. :flowers: They do that then they end up like this. :cry:

Don't do that kind of sh*t.

You really could also use a boyfriend destroyer. Otherwise, be clean and show that you're the better man. :up:
 
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