"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The two steps in getting girls

Pdizzzzzzle

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Hey guys,
I'm pretty new at this. I haven't been posting much, but Ive been reading this stuff for about 2 years. So feel free to tear up this advice I'm going to try to give.

Anyway, I've discovered there's almost two mind sets to dating girls. This the opening stage where you want to appear like the most ****y guy in the world,and a general fun loving guy that the girl will be honored to go out with. Then theres the second stage, where you stay ****y, but you should involve chivalry. Some guys say don't use it, I say go for it. Holding a door open for them will only help. They'll like that you can respect them, but that your not going to be their b!tch. If they're upset by chivalry and think its sexist, you going out with a feminazi who's not worth you time. Hope this might have helped anyone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SinJester

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It's one style.

I feel it works because when you start being nicer the girl feels like you have opened up to her in a way that you haven't to most people. She feels special and appreciated.
 

kazz

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Pdizzzzzzle, I'm pretty much the same way (long time lurker new poster) but anyway...the advice seems pretty sound. The only thing missing is kino...that could be the third step along with jokes, eye contact...all that other stuff that should come naturally. :D
 

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agreed with SinJester... when you are C&F (and I'm talking just naturally) and then you are nicer to a girl you are going out with, they really do feel special, but that is NO excuse to go overboard on the niceness and be just another *****y guy in a relationship...
 

Pdizzzzzzle

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drummer said:
agreed with SinJester... when you are C&F (and I'm talking just naturally) and then you are nicer to a girl you are going out with, they really do feel special, but that is NO excuse to go overboard on the niceness and be just another *****y guy in a relationship...
thanks for all the feedback. I wrote this in a rush so it was more a generalzation but the ideas you guys give is great. Thanks a lot so far.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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