"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The truth about women

Mr_knowit_all

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Over my 26 years, I've encountered a myriad of different women. Some were sweet, some were *****y, some insecure, some stuck up, some just plain crazy. But there's something ALL of these women have in common. They were looking for a guy they could respect.

It's been my experience that women are really looking for a guy they can look up to. I don't care how good looking you are, once a woman gets to know you and finds out you're a dork, she's not going to stay attracted to you.

You can't love someone you don't respect. That's the bottom line.

Now, what evokes this mysterious emotion in women called respect?

1) Stand your ground and don't enter her reality.
2) Don't reveal too much about your short comings.
3) Be willing to walk away
4) Have your own life, and don't be clingy.
5) Respect yourself
6) Don't reward her for bratty behavior
7) Be the man. Make some decisions and don't let her always lead the way
8) This ties in with number 2- Don't be too emotional. See a therapist if you need to, but don't wimper and whine infront of a woman. No matter how much they say they like sensitive guys, it'll make you look weak.

This is just a brief synopsis of some things I can think of that garnered me respect from women. Remember this, you lived before you were with a woman, and you'll live after a break up too.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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trance_addict

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good insight, but I believe most of that has already been used in the dj bible long before
 

Chosen1

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it is good advice especially the one about needing someone to look up to women love to have their own little superman
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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