Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The problem with becoming open and vulnerable is bad people will take advantage and exploit you.I truly believe everybody, deep inside, yearns for connection. Society has just stifled us so much that we think others dont care about you and it becomes a cycle. Say someone ignores you or dismisses you and you take it personally which makes you more defensive in the future but in reality that guy that ignored or you dismissed you did that because he has been ignored and dismissed in the past and thinks people aren't worth the time because he doesn't want to get hurt again. Now you will be dismissive of others and the cycle continues. Reverse the cycle yourself bro. Become open. Show people its okay to be vulnerable and let love flow through you. That is how you change the world.
You ever see a quarterback leave his receiver hanging out to dry and the guy gets beheaded?Reverse the cycle yourself bro. Become open. Show people its okay to be vulnerable and let love flow through you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.