"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The Truth about Society
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
ManlyMichael
Banned
to shape the earth, to build and plant, to pull down and uproot.
I pray some one remind this guy that he has much more power than he previously had, he never reached even close to his potential, if he has that mind of remembering he is a man blessed with strength to shape his environment, he will be having fun every day shaping his environment, and no devil type woman saying "get away from me" will phase him, it is her loss.
You see that she hated on him? She falsely accused him, and his spirit was weakened. But if he could maintain a hope and vision of how he wishes to shape the environment around him, he can do never be upset, especially by a woman like that!
The problem with becoming open and vulnerable is bad people will take advantage and exploit you.
We all start out pretty open when we are young. We say everything we think and are totally honest. We learn fast that being that way leads to negative consequences.
Everyone's natural instinct is to survive and if possible to THRIVE. Unfortunately, the better you are at doing those things the more danger you are in as other people who have less will look to take from you or bring you down. I've experienced this every time I rise up a little on the food chain. Enemies literally come out of the woodwork. It is SAD indeed.
btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
You ever see a quarterback leave his receiver hanging out to dry and the guy gets beheaded?
But in all honesty I think your advice is solid but you must be careful, too.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.