"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Truth about Society
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
ManlyMichael
Banned
to shape the earth, to build and plant, to pull down and uproot.
I pray some one remind this guy that he has much more power than he previously had, he never reached even close to his potential, if he has that mind of remembering he is a man blessed with strength to shape his environment, he will be having fun every day shaping his environment, and no devil type woman saying "get away from me" will phase him, it is her loss.
You see that she hated on him? She falsely accused him, and his spirit was weakened. But if he could maintain a hope and vision of how he wishes to shape the environment around him, he can do never be upset, especially by a woman like that!
The problem with becoming open and vulnerable is bad people will take advantage and exploit you.
We all start out pretty open when we are young. We say everything we think and are totally honest. We learn fast that being that way leads to negative consequences.
Everyone's natural instinct is to survive and if possible to THRIVE. Unfortunately, the better you are at doing those things the more danger you are in as other people who have less will look to take from you or bring you down. I've experienced this every time I rise up a little on the food chain. Enemies literally come out of the woodwork. It is SAD indeed.
btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
You ever see a quarterback leave his receiver hanging out to dry and the guy gets beheaded?
But in all honesty I think your advice is solid but you must be careful, too.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.