Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The Truth about Happiness

Roly

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Here's an awesome excerpt I just read at this random website by an anonymous author. This one is totally great.


"We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.

The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now.

If not now, when?

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.

For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.

So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time and remember that time waits for no one

So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you've had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die, until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination. Work like you don't need money, Love like you've never been hurt, And dance like no one's watching."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJDamage

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Its a good read, however one needs to know that its very difficult to maintain happiness for a very long time. The trick is to blance struggles with success and learn from your mistakes so the next day will be better. Just believing you can be happy is not enough because everything in this world is taken for granted until it is gone.
 

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Another way to do this is to always look for the positive in everything you do and enjoy everything you do.

But as DJ Damage said, even when I did that, a month later I was in the slumps deeper than ever. Now I'm back up, but it's hard to be happy allthe time when you have memories sand pain and things to remind you of them everyday. Nice post.
 

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I've heard this somewhere before, so unfortunately it doesn't do anything for me this time around.
 

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i think it's impossible to be happy all the time

what u can do is realise that happyness is a state of mind, not a goal as u mentioned...

maybe, if u remain real to yourself, your beliefs, passions u will feel happy because u are respecting yourself

try to know yourself, push yourself further and be connected to your soul

that can unleash your human spirit, and happyness
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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penkitten

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happiness is a state of mind.

if you want to be happy , you will be

if you want to be unhappy, you will be

its a matter of choice.
 

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of course u have to appreciate what you have, but not to the point you become complaecent

if you are always content with wat u have, u wont improve. so stay humble, but always improve
 

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Got this one from Buddhism:

Attatchment is the root of sorrow

If you arent attatched to anything, you have nothing to lose.

Basically, it's telling you to not let the tides and curretns around you affect your happiness.

-peace-
 
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