It's all about how you convey your message and deliver it effectively tbh. If you don't want to confirm dates then I hope you are doing a great job selling yourself. My issue is when cowards hide behind these passive bvtch made tactics and try and sell it as holding masculine frame. No dude, you are just scared to talk to women lol.
^^Thanks but I'm female.soooo.... but perhaps you meant "you" generically?
Re bolded, what? Lol. Cowards? Hiding behind passive bvtch made tactics?
Okay, maybe I'm not articulating myself properly but I'm referring to when a date, time and place has
already been set and confirmed and you've been texting periodically (not too much) throughout the week or days prior continuing to build rapport and comfort level.
Why would a man need to
ask if it's still a go? I truly don't get that.
Confirming is great! 100%!
"
Hey how's your day going? I'm busy as hell but see ya tonight at 8:00"!
It's a direct statement that generates positivity.
Versus
"
We still on for tonight"?
My response.
"Of course why wouldn't we be"?
While internally, I'm thinking - "Why is he asking me that? Does HE want to cancel? Is he hoping I will cancel? Does he think I might flake?
All sorts of negative thoughts whirl around within my feminine brain .
It causes me to question and not feel safe!
Women in general (not all) including myself, can be insecure as hell sometimes no matter how beautiful she is, we're nervous etc especially before a first date or date with a new man we're attracted to but don't know well.
I don't need or want a man to be!
His security; confidence and directness re what he wants etc causes ME to feel secure. I need/want that from him, most women do unless they're the take-charge boss-women types.
And lest you think how you word things (
asking versus a
direct statement confirming) doesn't matter, it's just semantics or whatever, it DOES matter especially during early stages when things are precarious and feelings/interest can change on a dime!
We're listening to everything you say and
how you say it .... and observing... YOU and any man should be doing same.
But hey man you do you and like I said if
asking if an already scheduled date is still on works well for you, great! Continue doing that.