"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The true chick magnets...

De La Soul

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It's a badly-kept secret.
Here's something I've noticed over the years, and I'm sure you'll notice it too: The guys who are successful and happy in their lives, and who realise that they don't need women to make them happy, attract chicks like there's no tomorrow.

This is no coincidence.

They are successful and happy because they have brought success and happiness into their own lives instead of waiting for a woman to bring it. These successful men know that they have the power to achieve happiness without a woman. They don't need women.

What does this add up to?

Challenge: They are not going to jump through hoops for a woman, and they are certainly not going to place any woman on a pedestal.

Confidence: How many successful and happy people do you know who don't have confidence?

Indifference: What do they care if a man or woman likes them or doesn't like them? What do they care if they get rejected? They already have happineess and success and therefore they conduct themselves with complete confidence and take rejection with ease; what's more, they're very unlikely to be rejected. He has a life of his own to live, it doesn't revolve around women.

Fun: A happy man knows how to have fun. He can be ****y + funny, and he knows how to have a good time.

A true chick magnet is a guy who is happy and succesful. How does he become happy and successful? It's not easily achieved, but the first step is to realise that you and only you can bring happiness into your own life. How is this done?
Well, here are a few quick and easy ways to achieve happineess:
- Generosity
- Optimism
- Being a risk-taker
- Listening to your favorite music
- Getting fit
- Stimulating your mind
- Smiling
- Laughing
But by far the best way to achieve the most happiness is by working out your goals in life, working hard for them, and achieving them. This is the greatest source of happiness and success, and hence the greatest source of chick magnets.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by De La Soul:
The guys who are successful and happy in their lives, and who realise that they don't need women to make them happy, attract chicks like there's no tomorrow.
A very good point. Don't ever lose sight of this guys...... IMHO it's a very desirable characteristic to acquire.

My DJing efforts have impoved as a result of striving to operate this way.
 

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i agree too, i was dissussing this with a friend, and we both agreed the guys who get on with their lives, and not devote their time to impressing women,get the most attention from women. Like a post i read recently here LIVE YOUR LIFE. women should be your final priority.Since i came here a couple of months ago , i have gone about changing everything i thought once,i was doing right! now i simply as a few friends said to me recently "u really dont give a $hit about anything" well thats true and it isnt. im ambitious and i want to be successful, like im sure all of you aswell. BUT BUT i dont let this issue of women , ?why dont they like me? crap bother me nemore. Why am i still here??? well thats simply because i want to keep on track, not let my emotions control me forever. Its not a sin for a guy to be emotional, or have feelings.But when one lets these characteristics dominate ones mental outlook,in every aspect of social enconters, then theres a problem...... go im rambling again , neway u get my point.

i like posts like these they keep u focused and remind u of the basics.

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"people like you are a dime a dozen, people like me only come around once in a lifetime."
 

CarlitosWay

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Espi said:
This 8-year old post is still golden and needs to be bumped...I notice too many guys out there trying way too hard to impress women; impress YOURSELF...work on YOURSELF...and the pu-tang will follow.
Yeah exactly... Reminds me of a sad story concerning some one I know. Guy had a lovely looking gf, problem, she was a bit high maintenance, yet him being real bad financially and not to smart with money, still went out and bought real nice things for her and place that was way above his means to try and impress her!! Seriously? Instead of putting his foot down like a man and thinking to himself we're going to do things in my best interest.

He did another stupid thing got caught messing around, she leaves him, he gets on his knees begs her to come back, she does. Well next thing you know they're broken up again, she's gone, his credit is beyond ****ed and he's stuck with a condo backed up on payments he could barely even afford with her help anyways and a junk car cause his other car went to **** which he was still making payments on!!!

Most people should print that **** out and plaster it on the door to their room. It's invaluable advice
 

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De La Soul said:
The guys who are successful and happy in their lives, and who realise that they don't need women to make them happy, attract chicks like there's no tomorrow.
There's a reason so many girls go after the gay boys.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Julius_Seizeher

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James Dean said:
There's a reason so many girls go after the gay boys.
Frustrated losers often rationalize happy, successful, or men otherwise different from them as being gay, weak, lucky, etc.

Shut your mouth new guy.
 

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My little brother gets laid every two days or so with seemingly different women and I got to see what his game really was: He lies a lot to overinflate his status and uses kino like a ****ing octopus (borderline rape, even). Doing those two things, he pretty much is a chick magnet.
 

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Nygard said:
My little brother gets laid every two days or so with seemingly different women and I got to see what his game really was: He lies a lot to overinflate his status and uses kino like a ****ing octopus (borderline rape, even). Doing those two things, he pretty much is a chick magnet.
Guess he's faking it until he makes it. Kind of like that Matt Damon uote "Better to be a fake someone than a real nobody" :)
 
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