"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The trap of beautiful women

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Recently i've started chatting with a few VERY beautiful girls..and the more i realized how great they looked, the more i started feeling like i am falling into this trap of "She looks amazing, how hard will it be to get with her.. how good are my chances comparing to her standards?" This hits you fast and leaves you less secure and confident... so gentelman, and this is a big reminder to all of you, as well as to myself..


Do not let woman's looks affect you

Do not let her looks affect the way you treat her:

If she is a model, great, treat her like a girl.
If she is a stripper, great, treat her like a girl.
If she is an ugly hag, great, treat her like a girl.



Do not be a jerk to ugly girls and dont be a push over to great girls.. keep it the same, and you will not fall into this trap of insecurity.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sart

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yeah

Well said Oxide, its a hard one, but you're dead right.
 
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So true

And the flip side is they tend to be attracted to you when you do treat them like any other girl.
 
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I was never really one to give hot girls compliments upon just SEEING them..... I think i actually despised them more growing up cus they had so much more than i could evr have just cus they were so beautiful.....but now i know how to deal without being a belligerent bastard.

It's all about controlling emotions man, it's weird cus that use to be one of my least concerns even though it was one of my biggest problems
 
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Do not be a jerk to ugly girls and dont be a push over to great girls.. keep it the same, and you will not fall into this trap of insecurity.
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The key is to realize that balance is EVERYTHING.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This is a great point and I'm getting better at this as time goes by. I hope I never stop getting better at this actually.

If you're afraid of girls then you're giving off weak signals. Pretty obvious really.

Wimpiness is poison. Be less wimpy lol.
 
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Ahh that's going to be hard to do. But yeah that's a must.
I'm goign to have to try to do that more often.

Good post.
 
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When I am with a 9 to 10 and I start feeling that feeling, I picture her with about 100 lbs added on, scraggly unwashed hair, poor complexion and it all goes away. I even giggle after I think that and the girl usually asks, "What?" That's usually a great in for some story...

-Al
 
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