"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The top reasons women cheat

lizardking82

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I am very curious about the thoughts on this one. I personally think it is two main reasons:

1) Lack of leadership and life purpose on the part of the man.
2) ****ed up woman in different aspects, cannot create bonds and strong connections.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I am very curious about the thoughts on this one. I personally think it is two main reasons:

1) Lack of leadership and life purpose on the part of the man.
2) ****ed up woman in different aspects, cannot create bonds and strong connections.
Ironically, you can have your act together as a man and still be accused of being #1 by a #2 woman because they will sabotage relationships. That's why you have to cut bait when you identify you're dealing with a #2. She will ruin you over time no matter how strong your frame is.
 

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Many different reasons, but the ones Ive personally seen are:
1. If she's not getting intimacy from her man. Women crave intimacy like men crave sex. If her man isn't giving her an emotional intimate connection, she'll seek it elsewhere.

2. If the passion goes away. She doesn't want stale, missionary style sex 3 nights a week. Women need excitement in the relationship. Surprise her with sex. Slap her, pull her hair, bite her neck, whatever you have to do to dominate her. When the passion goes away, she'll start to stray.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Because they can and they don't see the downside to doing it.

That is actually the only reason.
 

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tThe most common reason I hear is "I cheated because he wasn't giving me enough attention".

What's really pathetic is so many women feel it is okay to cheat because they weren't getting enough attention. If they pleaded their case before they cheated then fine. But to not say anything before they cheat as is usually the case is sad. Just shows you how weak they really are.

I hear more that stayed in an abusive relationship than stayed because they weren't getting enough attention.

We talk about it on here from time to time that negative emotion(drama, fights, arguments,etc) is better than no emotion. They crave that emotional fluctuation. Emotional drama/struggle is like crack to women. They are always chasing tingles.

I swear its better to bust a nut all over her face even tho she hates it than it is to have boring missionary sechs once a week.
 
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Because they want to. Women also crave for something different just like men do. And obviously she'll use her boyfriends lack of giving her attention as a cover.
 

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The reason women cheat:

1.) Man was a challenge early on in the relationship. He went to the gym, had friends, options, scarcity, always looking for the upgrade and made the woman chase. After a while, he decided to be content with the woman, got lazy, wasnt a challenge, etc. Man starts becoming more of a beta than he ever was early on. Woman doesnt like the man he is becoming and starts her search over.

2.) Man gives woman too much attention (texts, calls, dates, spending too much money on the chick, etc) because he put her on a pedestal. Over time, he becomes his normal self and she isnt getting the beta lovey dovey texts all the time, not as much attention, the expensive dates are less frequent, etc.
3.) She is a wh0re who is going to cheat regardless.

How you avoid these things from happening:

1.) Do not lose frame. Its ok to back off the game a little after you're with someone for a while, but you have to remain somewhat a challenge.
2.) Be yourself from the start. Dont try to be someone else. Sooner or later, your normal self will shine through and if she doesnt like that version, she will start looking around. Dont pedestalize a woman and go all out from the beginning. She hasnt earned that yet. Start slow, hold frame. If you go to the gym, keep going. Play golf, keep playing. Dont change for a woman. If she is accepting to your lifestyle early on, she will accept it later.
3.) If she is a wh0re, you should see the red flags early on and should never get into an emotional investment where any of this even matters. Pump and dump.
 

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The reason women cheat:

1.) Man was a challenge early on in the relationship. He went to the gym, had friends, options, scarcity, always looking for the upgrade and made the woman chase. After a while, he decided to be content with the woman, got lazy, wasnt a challenge, etc. Man starts becoming more of a beta than he ever was early on. Woman doesnt like the man he is becoming and starts her search over.

2.) Man gives woman too much attention (texts, calls, dates, spending too much money on the chick, etc) because he put her on a pedestal. Over time, he becomes his normal self and she isnt getting the beta lovey dovey texts all the time, not as much attention, the expensive dates are less frequent, etc.
3.) She is a wh0re who is going to cheat regardless.
Out of all of these, which would you say is most common?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Out of all of these, which would you say is most common?
That men get content and get lazy and fat. The same thing happens to guys when their chicks get lazy and complacent. We find new chicks lol.
 

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That men get content and get lazy and fat. The same thing happens to guys when their chicks get lazy and complacent. We find new chicks lol.
Agreed! Men stop trying and turn into little b1tches. They stop doing things they love, stop following their purpose, and generally just live a very mediocre lifestyle composed of wine tasting, family time, and screen time (tablets, phones, tv, computer, etc.).

It is not the rocket science that relationship experts make it out to be... Why did she fall in love? Because he was fun, outgoing, did all sorts of random activities, had friends, and was in great shape. For most men, this changes dramatically, so why would you expect a woman to continue to love you if you are half the man you were when you guys met? I certainly wouldn't be loyal to a woman who got complacent...
 

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It doesn't matter who you are or what you do, many women will still cheat. At this point, I just expect all women to cheat so when they do, I'm not surprised.
 

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It doesn't matter who you are or what you do, many women will still cheat. At this point, I just expect all women to cheat so when they do, I'm not surprised.
Even Rollo Tomassi stated in an interview that he knows his 19 year marriage could "all end tomorrow". Realistically, any woman could pull this crap. ANY ONE. Thinking you're too alpha or your frame is too strong is crazy talk. It's ultimately a matter or luck, one you've got alot of control over but not COMPLETELY.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It doesn't matter who you are or what you do, many women will still cheat. At this point, I just expect all women to cheat so when they do, I'm not surprised.
I like this way of looking at things.

I often think going into a new situation "Right, what surprises are lurking around the corner for me...."

When there are "surprises", well I'm not really surprised and already expecting them am in the right frame of mind to deal with them
effectively and appropriately. When there are no little surprises, well, it's actually a nice little bonus that I wasn't expecting.

In some circumstances we need to lower or be more realistic with our expectations. Doesn't mean lowering standards or not wanting the best, but more lowering expectations from people or circumstances that are outside our control.

Hope for the best, expect the worst.
 

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Even Rollo Tomassi stated in an interview that he knows his 19 year marriage could "all end tomorrow". Realistically, any woman could pull this crap. ANY ONE. Thinking you're too alpha or your frame is too strong is crazy talk. It's ultimately a matter or luck, one you've got alot of control over but not COMPLETELY.
Guys! You can get cheated for being TOO ALPHA! You can also get cheated for being TOO BETA! You can also get cheated because her friends group is going that direction. You can get cheated cause her head gets too big and she's too into herself. You can be cheated for any reason.
 

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After having my heart broken in my last relationship. Im going into everything with the thought every women cheats. I will never again get emotionally attached, that way I wont be let down if and when something disastrous happens.
 

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Guys! You can get cheated for being TOO ALPHA! You can also get cheated for being TOO BETA! You can also get cheated because her friends group is going that direction. You can get cheated cause her head gets too big and she's too into herself. You can be cheated for any reason.
Hell you can get cheated for being "too attractive", having too big of a c0ck, for being too good in the sack. Some of these b1tches cheat to WIN over you.
 

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After having my heart broken in my last relationship. Im going into everything with the thought every women cheats. I will never again get emotionally attached, that way I wont be let down if and when something disastrous happens.
One really has to analyze the whole concept of "cheating". What constitutes a man to believe that a woman "cheated on him". It is somewhat of a social construct the very notion of "cheating" between the sexes, it does imply that somewhat of a "contract" has been verbally agreed to.........

......and there we have it....in what circumstances does man put himself in this precarious position where he is propelled to operate under a social construct and the made up notion of "cheating"?

Exclusive long term relationships or/and marriage.

I'm not personally against the idea of an exclusive long term relationships per se and every man has the right to choose whatever sexual strategy suits his lifestyle. That being said, we as men really ought to keep the very idea of exclusivity as something that may be given sometime in the future.......just not now. Not right now. Enjoy life, enjoy playing the field......why oh why rush into exclusivity?? To what gain......

Why as Rollo says are men in such a rush to make one woman his broker for his sex life..........guarding exclusivity as something that is not given lightly keeps you as the man the broker for your sex life. That instills confidence.

As Patrice O'Neal used to say......women do not realize the fvcking sacrifice that men make when they enter into an exclusive relationship. They don't realize it nor do they appreciate it.

So let them work for it...........
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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