You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
? wow. You must not have read all my posts... or have you. that would be a considerable feat. How to search was stikied. But I have many a other post that are useful and helpful. Just because you don't see them doesn't mean they arn't thier.fascinating
Well lets see some of your great posts capi... oh wait... "How to search" was your most notable thing... How sad
Jester: YesOriginally posted by AC/DC
I haven't been online in 4 months and you guys are evaluating eachother... sad.
Go out there, get some experience, come back, have fun with eachother. It doesn't last forever (high school).
Ahhh, I remember when I wrote this in 2002... lol good old times.
Is Jester & Specter still around?
Has it really been that long? Wow, I feel old.Originally posted by AC/DC
I haven't been online in 4 months and you guys are evaluating eachother... sad.
Go out there, get some experience, come back, have fun with eachother. It doesn't last forever (high school).
Ahhh, I remember when I wrote this in 2002... lol good old times.
Is Jester & Specter still around?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Originally posted by Nex
Get it in the bible already!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How do you know when to start step 3? What signs should one be looking for from the girl?whatsupwiddat said:Give her a little bit off attention at first, using Kino and C+F to capture her interest. Then, all of a sudden, once you are sure you have established a foothold in her mind as a somebody that is possible to have a relationship with, suddenly take all that attention away.