"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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the the guys who dont display their age

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I think this is really important. I just realized I didnt have mine up, and I changed it.

Whether you like it or not, age plays an important factor in giving advice, because with time comes experience.

There are master dj's posting here who might be 16. Now, even if a kid is dead on with his incites, you have to suspect he may not really have done everything he claims.

There are a couple of older guys posting here, around 40, that I dont always agree with, but I respect that they have 10 years on me, so I am apt to hear them out.

So, why not show your age. It establishes trust if nothing else.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TonyWongButOhSoRite said:
Im 18 you grandad.
That's Grand Master you Pad Juan. ;)

But I'm not gonna remember your age. If you put it on display, then I can read your posts and know that I am hearing from an 18 yr old, which is fine, and I can adjust the way I process the info you provide.
 

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And also their Location matters. If someone is in a different geological are of the US. let alone in a another country all together, I think their experience would differ some. As an extreme example I think someone's experience in say Pakistan would differ from one in NYC.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ketostix said:
And also their Location matters. If someone is in a different geological are of the US. let alone in a another country all together, I think their experience would differ some. As an extreme example I think someone's experience in say Pakistan would differ from one in NYC.
Maxtro reads ketostix's post then tries to find his location and fails... :D
 

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ketostix said:
And also their Location matters. If someone is in a different geological are of the US. let alone in a another country all together, I think their experience would differ some. As an extreme example I think someone's experience in say Pakistan would differ from one in NYC.
absolutely - age and location are factors. Not better or worse, but different. I really want to her what a 13 tr old DJ from mazatlan thinks.
 

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Maxtro said:
Maxtro reads ketostix's post then tries to find his location and fails... :D
I know I was being hypocritical :D
 

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Heh I like to mess with my location thing, but age is who I am and I have no need to hide that.

However additionally to experience, another factor in taking advice is the way the person says it.
 

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What about us that show everything?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Age is far more a factor than location.

Sure, people differ from place to place, but if you are in control of what you are doing, you can take ANY advice on board and tailor it to your particular situation.
 

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Snowyk said:
Age is far more a factor than location.

Sure, people differ from place to place, but if you are in control of what you are doing, you can take ANY advice on board and tailor it to your particular situation.

I'm believe age is more of a factor and for reasons more than just wisdom, maturity and experience but I'm not so sure location isn't a big factor too. Just traveling within the US from the midwest to TX and then to the westcoast, sure there was similarities, I found difference. It seemed C+F and possibly negs worked better in Southwest, where I think they were originated by gurus there, than they do here in the midwest. But I'll defer judgement to the Cali guys, especially those that spent time in the midwest :D.
 

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ketostix said:
I'm believe age is more of a factor and for reasons more than just wisdom, maturity and experience but I'm not so sure location isn't a big factor too. Just traveling within the US from the midwest to TX and then to the westcoast, sure there was similarities, I found difference. It seemed C+F and possibly negs worked better in Southwest, where I think they were originated by gurus there, than they do here in the midwest. But I'll defer judgement to the Cali guys, especially those that spent time in the midwest :D.

I am from Cali and I lived in KS for 3 years. I think there is a huge difference!

One thing I noticed right away is the personality and interests of the Midwestern girls are very different. One of the main questions I was asked in KS was: "Where are you going to school at"?

I was taking classes from K-State, but I was in the Army (killed the convo each time I admitted that.) I don't think I ever get asked that here in Cali.

Girls in KS were carefree and liked to party, but it was a different kind of party. It was like they lived a sheltered life until they moved out and they were making up for it.

Girls here seem to be over the whole party girl thing by the age it is legal for them. They (for the most part) are Posh when it comes to partying and going out. More glam and trends than just having fun.

IE. Typical night out in KS.

Girls in Jeans with K-State sweat shirts. Hair up or simple. Bars instead of clubs! Topics usually included: Books, Class', Relationships, TV, Movies, Football, sports, etc. When I did go to the clubs available there, they dressed up of course but topics didn't change.

Typical night in CA.

Girls in ‘Wet Seal’ outfits and hair done. Nails ... Every girl has their nails done! High heals and they dance in them. Topics usually are work related, Pop Culture, Relationships, and social circle antidotes. The language is different as well. They say Hella, Move their hands around, get excited and scream, jump up and down and scream OMG, etc.

I think in the Midwest people were a lot more approachable and genuinely interested in getting to know you as a person. They had stronger convictions towards politics and religion. Most of them were middle class or upper middle class. They either got out of the Midwest ASAP or settled for the 'cookie cutter' Midwest life style. Raised right, go to school, go to Church, get married, have a Family, and Repeat all steps.

Here on the west coast I think most girls are different and the scene is very diverse.

My opinion (and that is all it is) is based on situation key points. I am sure if I was in a different location or occupation my experience would have been completely different. What is interesting is I met a girl here in CA that was from KS and she got out of KS once she turned 18. She said she wanted to get out before she was trapped by that lifestyle. She wants to be an actress and sing… Don’t they all?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Excellent info Zero. I forgot people out west consider Kansas the midwest. By midwest I meant Ohio, Michigan, Indiana, Illinois. but I agree with the difference. Heck even in the large city in my midwest state girls, girls try to emulate what you might find in say Los Angles or NY.And if you get out of the big city and into the smaller towns even within my state there's quite a bit of differences. But I agree with you about the differences between the regions.
 

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Heh, My post was kinda biased I guess.

I'm an Aussie, and was talking from there. Of course, everywhere is different.

But what I'm saying is, if you know your stuff, even if things ARE different where you are, you should still be able to take advice, test it, fine tune it, and use it yourself.
Or just stick it in the circular file if it doesn't work.
 

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Snowyk said:
Heh, My post was kinda biased I guess.

I'm an Aussie, and was talking from there. Of course, everywhere is different.

But what I'm saying is, if you know your stuff, even if things ARE different where you are, you should still be able to take advice, test it, fine tune it, and use it yourself.
Or just stick it in the circular file if it doesn't work.
I had no problem with your post
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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