"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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k, so i got this hb10 on tinder. the best one i've been swiped for so far. i'm gonna treat this one like a landmind, and tread with caution.

my initial text: (reference to her 'about' which says that she may either lie or tell the truth at the same time) what you say may be a paradox but your beauty is undoubtable.

her: oooh thank you ^ ^

what should my next line be? should i go with another joke or straight for the small talk?

i got 'np. me on the other hand, always try to tell the truth. what do you do here?', 'just an honest observation.', 'so what's a lie that you told today? please don't say that you don't exist ' something along that line.
 

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Why would you "go with" another joke or small talk? Neither of these approaches are honest, its you putting on an act and you both know it.

Be straight up, tell her to meet you or get some real convo going, and move on to the next.

Unfortunately, based on the fact that you're already overanalyzing a girl who you've never met and has said 3 words to you, id say your odds at this point are close to zero.
 
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jurry said:
Unfortunately, based on the fact that you're already overanalyzing a girl who you've never met and has said 3 words to you, id say your odds at this point are close to zero.
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Exactly, the problem isn't what to text next... it's that you're so consumed by it. Until you realize this, what you text back is irrelevant.
 
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hahaha i know i'm obsessive, dudes. otherwise i wouldn't even be here. i also have zero experience in these things considering i started my adult dating life for the first time last month.

just asking her for her job, hobby is boring as kcuf tho, no?

and i thought i was suppose to open with a joke. question is, how far do i carry it?
 
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You're not "supposed" to do anything, the point is to enjoy meeting and dating women.. not go through premeditated questions/jokes like a checklist with her.

Theres nothing wrong with asking about her job or hobby per se, but online it is difficult (though possible) to establish rapport and get an extended convo going without it fizzling out or you looking needy. If she is not saying much back or seem generally interested in talking to you then go right for the date and move on.

But just relax, keep it light, have fun, escalate it to a date sooner rather than later.
 

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so go right for 'wanna grab a coffee?'

i did that with some other girl and she was like 'but let's talk more'... then fizzed out after couple more exchanges.
 
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