So, I wouldn’t go as far as to say the advice is “wrong”, but rather it isn’t perfect.
I actually encountered the same thing the other day, but it was with a girl I had only seen twice. We had two good dates, each about 1 week apart. After each date she texted me thanking me for a good time with smileys and all that shyte. Each time she reached out I’d slowly take steps to make a next date, to which she went along with very happily, or so it seemed.
Monday last week, I setup a date with her Saturday night at my apartment, and told her I’d shoot her my address later in the week/before Saturday. Friday afternoon rolls around and I’m just about to text her when I get this paragraph from her about how she “isn’t sure she sees it going anywhere” and “doesn’t know if she wants to waste my time since she can’t tell if it’s going anywhere”. I just told her no problem, to which she replied again, saying it was because she didn’t think I was interested enough in her and didn’t reach out sooner or my frequently between the 1st/2nd or the 2nd/3rd date that was planned, which she cancelled on.
I don’t really text much. Just to make plans really and that’s it. She basically said (without explicitly saying it) that my lack of texting between dates is what turned her off.
I strongly believe with younger women (20-25) they can be more emotionally attached to things like texting, because a ton of loser dudes are blowing their phones up daily with nonsense chitchat. At least that’s what I refer to it as, but to each their own opinion on that matter.
I guess what I’m getting at is I think there is some validity in OPs thoughts on this and it isn’t 100% certain that these girls are using that as an excuse for something else.
This has happened to me twice in the last year - where a girl I don’t text between dates drops me because they think I’m no longer interested or “serious” about taking a girl on a date and courting them. When in reality, I was definitely down for courting and dating them and seeing where things go, whether it be fwb/short term/ltr, whatever really.
Also, for context, when I texted I was neither too cold nor too over-the-top.
Thoughts?
thanks