"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The takeaway...and handling the comeback

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OK so .... having done the following.

1. expressed some initial attraction
2. Had to do a takeaway due to lack of interest or rejection (hey, them's the breaks)

When they end up coming back from the "ganji games", how do you play it? Recently, both of the girls I did a hard next on after getting rejected came back around at me after a couple of months, but I didn't end up playing those properly either. So I'm wondering if there's a proper strategy for this.

I'm a pretty straight-forward guy and actually believe in being 100% responsive to people I know, so ignoring e-mails or calls goes against my grain. Maybe this hurts my chances. But something is telling me I ought to ignore the first couple of contacts before responding...and then, I'm wondering how soon to escalate or invite after that for the best percentages chances of turning the game around.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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More like made a move, got the cheek, then started getting IM's that she really enjoys hanging out with me but didn't want me to think that night was a date, etc. I cut her off and told her to meet me if she wanted to talk, but after talking to folks here, I canceled instead.

We had great rapport when we were out together, but I'm done investing on my end and the ball is in her court. I still run into her once in a while so I'll be friendly, but that's it unless she reinitiates.

Still, it got me thinking about the other couple of times I had to next hard and how they both came back trying to get ME to go out to lunch or dinner. I really don't know how to amp it up from that context.
 
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Three for three now. After about two months I ran into her at an event. She IM's me to say hi and too bad we couldn't catch up, then invites me to another thing happening on campus after hours. I'm already going somewhere else that night so I decline.

About a week later I invite her to a party/concert. She swings by to grab the ticket in advance, invites me to dinner, I decline again as I'm busy with friends over that night.

Keep in mind this girl never really invited me to do anything before.

At the concert, plenty of social proof with the other gals I am with in both directions, it's just fun all around, and she mails me the next day to say she had a ton of fun.

Not really sure what to do next. =P I don't want to cross vague boundaries so I might do Johnny Soporno's "unconditional friendship" offer thing.
 
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