"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The stupid things girls and guys do...

chance

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here are some things i think are stupid:

* we pretend to be busy when we get a text or a missed call to make it look like we aren't desperate or have an awesome busy lifestyle.

* texting on the phone is stupid? why? if they like you they won't care.

* waiting a few days to call after getting a number? again why, if they like us, it shouldn't matter.

* girls leading us on and when we try to arrange a date they flake out... wasted our time just to make themselves feel better.

* lying to girls about having a job or not living with your parents. - lying has a way of coming back to haunt you... trust me. it's easier to be honest. even if you don't get the girl.

* girls ignore you instead of just saying what they wanna say.

that's all i can think of for now.

btw, i have actually done all the opposite of the things i mentioned and i've gotten laid still. i told a girl (who told me she just wanted to be friends) over msn chat that i wanted to fuk her brains out and that i would kiss her next time she came over... she did, the next day. i think it's a load of bullsh!t to not wanna do or say what you really want to... if the girl doesn't bite back then she's the problem not you. i say do what you want and say what you want!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJ_Hero said:
I think people get this wrong a lot. .
And the award for biggest KBJ goes to . . . DJ Zero

OP is right. Anything dishonest is a looser approach. I cant believe guys are still regurgitating Mysery's old line, "Fake it till you make it."

How bout, "Try and fail until you make it."
 

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People at this age and time are afraid of trial and error, afraid of failing we learn when we fail. Try until you get it right no matter what.
 

chance

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* being nice to girls doesn't work, they think its boring.

* being a jerk to girls so they like you.

* ignoring girls to make them want you more.

* if they see you with another girl they want you even more.

* being single isn't as attractive as being taken.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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