With a DA (Direct approach) You would go up to a girl and say:
"Hi, I think you're beautiful, and I want to meet you!"(or more direct, "I want to get to know you!")
And you say it with emphasis and you try to face her more directly and give more direct eye contact.
With an IDA (Indirect approch) you would omit the beautiful part:
"Hi, I wanted to meet.."
Or if you're approaching more indirectly you wouldn't state the obvious that you wanted to meet her you, instead you might say "Hi (then say something situational) leaving the part you want to meet her implicit. I don't think whether you would or not say you wanted to meet her is real important, but you wouldn't say she's beautiful or you want to get to know her.
And at first your body language wouldn't be so direct, you would not emphasize your interest with your body language.
Just like with your words you're not trying to pressure her too much from the beginning until she's warmed up to you.
Well I think that's the basic difference and the framework of IDA. Within that framework you can do various things.
"Hi, I think you're beautiful, and I want to meet you!"(or more direct, "I want to get to know you!")
And you say it with emphasis and you try to face her more directly and give more direct eye contact.
With an IDA (Indirect approch) you would omit the beautiful part:
"Hi, I wanted to meet.."
Or if you're approaching more indirectly you wouldn't state the obvious that you wanted to meet her you, instead you might say "Hi (then say something situational) leaving the part you want to meet her implicit. I don't think whether you would or not say you wanted to meet her is real important, but you wouldn't say she's beautiful or you want to get to know her.
And at first your body language wouldn't be so direct, you would not emphasize your interest with your body language.
Just like with your words you're not trying to pressure her too much from the beginning until she's warmed up to you.
Well I think that's the basic difference and the framework of IDA. Within that framework you can do various things.
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