"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"The Shy Technique" for not so shy girls

DiSt0rTi0n_07

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Hey everybody, I haven't been here in a long time(Been quite wrapped up in college hw and stuff)!

Anywho, during my recent experimenting, I think I may have stumbled upon a new technique. I'm in the middle of a field test at the moment but I figure some of you might be interested in doing your own test.

Here's the situation!

Around a month ago, the college was having a formal dance and I hadn't heard about it yet. A friend of mine asks me one night (on msn messenger) if i'm going, to which my response is "I dunno, never heard about it until now." --She's trying to find a date for her friend.

1. She asks if I will go with her "hot" friend

2. Her friend then comes on and says something to the effect of "Well, ummm. I was just wondering, if you were planning on going, I was wondering if I could maybe go with you."

3. Turns out i've met this girl before and yeah, she is actually hot. SO... this is where my technique comes into play!;)

-->First I play the mysterious card, giving her a "maybe" followed by (only once) telling her she is SHY for having her friend find her a date(she responds by telling me she is SOOOO outgoing) and she tells me I need to get to know her better, obviously hinting at something. (I did NOT make a move here)

Turns out the dance was cancelled. Oh well, doesn't matter to me. A couple weeks later, the hot friend steals my email from my friend and messages me, asking WHY I THINK SHE IS SO SHY.

-->I tell her I don't want to be late for work a few hours from now. :D Anyways, I run into her after work, and by this time she is EXTREMELY curious about why I think she is so shy. I tell her a couple quick reasons and she responds: "Oh, i'm really not shy tho- SERIOUSLY."

She is playing into my hands!

-->The best part here is when I say the golden words: "Prove It!!!"

At this point, a chick would either ask you out or she will turn all nervous and you step in and show that stunning confidence and do the asking. I was realllllly tired after work. Normally I would have said something like "I don't expect you to ask ME out, I already know you are way too shy for that." but my mind was half asleep.

Long story short, she thought such a smooth guy like me :COOL: would reject her, so I ended up asking her out. I have her # and i'm gonna call her in a few days. Just another note, I have NEVER started talking to her, she does EVERY time! She is putty in my hands right now.

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The reason this is in the discussion forum is because
1. I want your opinion of this technique.
2. Help Field Testing if ur interested.

This post is solely a description of how I got a chick obsessing over me:p. If I get positive feedback, I'll explore it more and write a post in the tips section.

Good luck guys! It's Nice to be back!
 

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And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SamePendo

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So, the technique .. is to tell chicks that aren't shy... or THAT shy that they are shy. And then wait (or make them) ask you why you think they are shy... and then you go with "prove it" , right?

I don't know if this has been written before, but it makes total sense man. I'll try it TODAY.
 

DiSt0rTi0n_07

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Its not so much waiting as it is provoking. I prolly should have mentioned that I refused to go with her if she was too shy to ask me.

I also made a point of implying that she wasn't good enough for me if she was a shy girl. This is what got her chasing me. Chicks want everyone to like them right.

It's also kinda interesting telling a chick to prove that she is good enough for you, and in this case, not shy. She could do any of a variety of things such as ask YOU out, kiss you, or just get all nervous.

IF she gets all nervous, you just step in and say something like
"You're losing your chances with me here (thanks DD). We're gonna have to work on this shyness thing but a good start would be writing down your phone number for me."

And just take it from there. Hope that clarifies it a little bit.
 

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It's kinda kinky thing. More like attacking a person's personality type of thing. Hey, but if the girls likes it, why not?
 

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this doesnt sound like a technique at all. You don't even know if she'll flake if you ask her out. You have her #, but that doesnt mean anything yet.

If she does agree to hang out w/ u, then it meant she was interested from the beginning. If she is hot, she's probably got plenty of guys after her. SO if she wanted you from the beginning, all you had to do was go with the flow, and its an easy lay.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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skinnydart

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Sounds like a good idea, go for it!

Let us know if it fails, so we don't have to try it. :D
 

DiSt0rTi0n_07

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Wiesman44:
I knew her before the night her friend was finding her a date. She never started showing interest until I started telling her she was too shy for my tastes. This is why it IS a technique:

Ladiesssman:
Its not "attacking a personality type." However, it is telling her that she doesn't measure up if she is shy. This leads her to trying to convince me that she is outgoing, and that like everyone else, I should like her. What is happening is that i'm giving her a chance to see the real me, the smooth talking DJ side of me.
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Actually, I went to call her earlier tonight (3 days after I got her # if you were wondering) but she wasn't home. A couple hours later, she messages me on msn and starts asking me to come to her place for a movie night ;).

A friend of hers is up for xmas break away from college so its gonna be 2 HBs, a buddy of mine, and me.

We are meeting at blockbuster tomorrow. What movie do you guys suggest for 2 hot, jumpy chicks, one of which is sexually obsessive?:D
 
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