"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The sexual politics of installing a home urinal

MatureDJ

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I am in the process of having a new home built, and have put in a urinal in both of the bathrooms. My architect and construction manager both commented that they both wanted to put one in their OWN homes, but that in both cases, their wives nixed it.

I can recall a decade ago having a similar conversation with a friend's wife (at that time I was mentioning how I wanted to put one in for my next home.) She said that it would be a bad thing (unless it were hidden behind a door), and that it might be a bit offensive to a woman using that bathroom (WTF?)

I have already decided that this is going to be my permanent home for a LONG, LONG time. If any woman comes into my life and makes a big deal about it, I will simply say something like:

I can change women a lot easier than I change my home.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I SWEAR, this place just continues to surprise me.

GREAT idea, and to h*ll with women who don't like it.

Why don't we ALL have them? Helps with the seat up/down B.S., too, right?

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f*ck ya instal the urinal.

also get a neon sign with a naked chic sitting in a ****tail glass.

a man's home is his castle. get whatever the hell you want :)
 

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If any woman comes into my life and makes a big deal about it

Tell her that having the urinal keeps it neater in the bathroom, and makes it easier for your girlfriends to clean.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
If any woman comes into my life and makes a big deal about it

Tell her that having the urinal keeps it neater in the bathroom, and makes it easier for your girlfriends to clean.

heck, just put a mickey mouse urinal cake in there and she'll love it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'll stick with my hidden camera system ;)

j/k

I've had more than one chick tease me about that actually. And we all know that jokes are half serious. Must not have been too bad though cause I think the only ones who joked about it were chicks I was fukking.
 

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joekerr31 said:
heck, just put a mickey mouse urinal cake in there and she'll love it.
Nice. I had a chuckle with this one.
 

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I'd love to put a urinal in my house when I get a house. I'd like a really cool one. Heck it even solves the problem of leaving the seat up.
 

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Maxtro said:
I'd love to put a urinal in my house when I get a house. I'd like a really cool one. Heck it even solves the problem of leaving the seat up.
Beats pissing in the sink!:eek:
 
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I thought about this myself!! I have an old house, I'm thinking about getting one of those urinals that you find at festivals were they have a rotunda of urinals and you can wash your hands by stepping on a bar to wash your hands - it takes up a lot of space! :( I have to build a separate room/house to build this contraption!

This is not about sexual politics - it's about human rights!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MatureDJ said:
I am in the process of having a new home built, and have put in a urinal in both of the bathrooms. My architect and construction manager both commented that they both wanted to put one in their OWN homes, but that in both cases, their wives nixed it.

I can recall a decade ago having a similar conversation with a friend's wife (at that time I was mentioning how I wanted to put one in for my next home.) She said that it would be a bad thing (unless it were hidden behind a door), and that it might be a bit offensive to a woman using that bathroom (WTF?)

I have already decided that this is going to be my permanent home for a LONG, LONG time. If any woman comes into my life and makes a big deal about it, I will simply say something like:

I never give out rep points, cant be ars*d, but i feel obliged to in this situaton

Nice.
 

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If the women that nixed having urinals in their homes did so because they thought those things were ugly I have to agree.

They are however awesome for convenience so definitely good job getting one installed for yourself man.
 

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LOL WTF??

How big is your bathroom?

Urinals are great for public restrooms because they allow men to "go" without having to worry about seat-splash and without the necessity of "putting down paper". Urinals, however, are regularly prone to "oversplash", which makes your floor a mess of piss. In a public bathroom, especially a bar, it's not that big a deal. In your house...ehh...you're gonna be mopping a lot more to keep your place sanitary.

Plus if your bathroom's not big enough, you're not going to be able to put it anywhere where it's not face-level with someone sitting down to take a dump. Which is just nasty. Public bathrooms are big enough to fit several between wide divided stalls.

Now if you have a club-room or bar-room where the guys come to hang out and that area has its own bathroom close-by, then it's an EXCELLENT idea. But for the primary/master bathroom? Dude, just lift the seat up. Same effect.

Some of you guys take this "ultra-MAN-power" too far. You're as bad as the feminazis, making a big deal out of every damn thing. It's a neat idea, but I don't think you've thought it through beyond "how much it'll piss off the feminists".

But hey, it's your bathroom.
 

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@Squirrels - nope. They come in all shapes and sizes and constructions.

Now I like this one :)
http://img.stern.de/_content/57/61/576192/urinal_500.jpg

This one might become your GF´s favorite ...bugagaaa
http://www.unclestu.com/urinals/urinal7.jpg

This one is gross
http://www.urinal.net/vienna_bar/IMG_0975.med.jpg

This one is not bad too IMHO ) Artsy, but nothing for everyday use.
http://www.trendir.com/archives/natures-call-flower-shaped-urinal-clark-sorensen-red-hibiscus.jpg

There´s models out with a lid. So aesthetical problems solved.
http://www.construmat.ch/Urinal 04.jpg

There´s a zillion other designs and constructions out.. so get whatever rocks your boat... or the one of your GF.

So - if you like the concept (I do... we have one - no life without it!), there´s no technical or aesthetical argument against it that cannot be solved.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Desdinova said:
Man, screw the urinal and install a bidet!
Yeah, good for feet as well))) Those french know their shyt...
But with a shower in every bathroom bidets IMHO have become obsolete.
 

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Haha......I just love the title of this thread "The sexual politics of installing a home urinal".

As if there should be ANY politics involved in installing a urinal. Great thread.
 

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LMFAO @ Rudra!!!

Damn man those urinals would have me laughing too hard to be able to use em.
 

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But with a shower in every bathroom bidets IMHO have become obsolete.
I'd disagree. The shower's good for a full body wash. A bidet would be perfect for after sex when all you wanna do is get your crotch washed.

I'd love to have a bidet.
Her: What's that thing for?
You: For washing your pu55y after sex.
Her: You're kidding, right?
You: Here, take you pants off and I'll show you how it works. :D
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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