"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Secret to Massive Triceps

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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couldn't agree more! :up: of the two exercises though, the close grips shade it as being superior as a triceps builder since you can use more weight safely. (if you're a big person or use lots of additional weight with dips you may find it bothers your shoulders)

but you should of course do both for maximum effectiveness!
 

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Warboss Alex said:
couldn't agree more! :up: of the two exercises though, the close grips shade it as being superior as a triceps builder since you can use more weight safely. (if you're a big person or use lots of additional weight with dips you may find it bothers your shoulders)

but you should of course do both for maximum effectiveness!
Thanks Alex. Advanced trainees will definitely have it easier with the cgbp than the dips when going after big weights. Couldn't agree more.
 

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What do you mean when you say "Try to break the bar"?

I like your stuff man.
 

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WesCottII said:
What do you mean when you say "Try to break the bar"?

I like your stuff man.
Thank you!

Trying to break the bar means that you have to try to break the bar apart. You grip the bar strong & try to bend it.

This involved the triceps more & allows bigger weights.

Old powerlifting trick.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Aah, cool.

Do you recommend most of the tricep work should come with lifting heavy chest sets, and only doing 1/2 sets for the tricep?
 

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Aah, cool.

Do you recommend most of the tricep work should come with lifting heavy chest sets, and only doing 1/2 sets for the tricep?
Good question.

Heavy bench press/overhead press will already hit the triceps hard. I don't do any direct triceps work to be honest. I let the overhead press do the job. I'm happy with the results (not doing bodybuilding anyway).

If you want a bigger triceps:
1) eat more
2) add exercises for the triceps (1 exercise of 3 sets & 8 reps or 2 exercises of 2 sets & 8reps)
3) give your triceps time to recover. don't do too much.
 

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Lower the bar to your lower chest
Where?

I can't get a clue as to what is actually proper or if it matters that much. Starting Strength pretty much as you going to your nipples, while the other day i saw that powerlifters go lower, and I just read an Arioch article nonchalantly saying the bar should be lowered to the "apex of the arch." That's pretty much your navel!

I'm really interested in this because i'm trying to perfect my bench form and i find it hard to keep the bar low especially on the last reps where it wants to travel up (i assume because i push with delts too much).

I assume closegrips is pretty much the same form as a regular grip.
 

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espi -> presses are superior to any kind of extensions, more weight is used. We all have our preferences of course. Whatever works for you.

mrRuckus said:
Where?

I can't get a clue as to what is actually proper or if it matters that much. Starting Strength pretty much as you going to your nipples, while the other day i saw that powerlifters go lower, and I just read an Arioch article nonchalantly saying the bar should be lowered to the "apex of the arch." That's pretty much your navel!

I'm really interested in this because i'm trying to perfect my bench form and i find it hard to keep the bar low especially on the last reps where it wants to travel up (i assume because i push with delts too much).

I assume closegrips is pretty much the same form as a regular grip.
Looking at videos of powerlifters doing max attempts is not the best thing to do. Technique goes lost in all of us when doing max attempts.

Your morphology pretty much dictates where the bar should be. In starting strength, go page 81/82. Elbows. Forearm should be perpendicular with the floor. Take a video of yourself benching. Analyze forearm position. If they are not perpendicular to the floor, change bar position until you find the sweet spot.
 

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2 questions :

-I always get a sharp pain my right wrist when doing close grip. I think its because my grip may not be right...i just do it the same as BP grip, just it feels awkward in CGBP, and i have to stop

- Do you recommend splitting up regular BP, and CGBP throughout the week? or on the same day (Which i imagine would be hard)



PS when are you going to post that deadlift form video for me :p
 

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Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hockey Playa said:
2 questions :

-I always get a sharp pain my right wrist when doing close grip. I think its because my grip may not be right...i just do it the same as BP grip, just it feels awkward in CGBP, and i have to stop

- Do you recommend splitting up regular BP, and CGBP throughout the week? or on the same day (Which i imagine would be hard)

PS when are you going to post that deadlift form video for me :p
1) do some wrist stretches
2) Hold the weight at the base of your palm, as close to your wrist as possible (but in you rhand of course). thumbs around the bar.
3) check the grip width, it should be shoulder-width apart (12-14 inch)
4) You could mix chest with triceps. One press, one flye exercise for pecs, than the cgbp or dips for triceps. Or you could just drop the bp & replace it by the cgbp. the cgbp hits the pecs too, but to a lesser degree.

The deadlift video will be available as soon as I deadlift. Need to check my training journal, but I think it's programmed in 3 weeks.

Patience ;)
 

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Espi said:
Best tricep building exercises:

Dips
Skullcrushers

The article is remiss in exempting the latter.
+1 for skullcrushers,I can't into the whole dip exercise,I really feel it more in my chest then tri.
 

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don't know many people who can do skullcrushers heavy enough to make them on a par with dips or close grip benches. any sort of extension movement is going to bother your elbows unless the reps are fairly high (which limits the weight), this does induce growth but you should always aim for the heaviest weight moved possible. skullcrushers complement your main tricep presses but unless you can go heavy enough on them without discomfort then I'd stick to the pressing movements. of course if you're already doing chest and shoulder presses on your tricep day do some extensions - depends how your routine is laid out.
 

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+1 for skullcrushers,I can't into the whole dip exercise,I really feel it more in my chest then tri.
* keep the torso vertical
* lower yourself until upper arms parallel with the floor

Not doing this will turn it into a chest exercise.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Warboss Alex said:
don't know many people who can do skullcrushers heavy enough to make them on a par with dips or close grip benches. any sort of extension movement is going to bother your elbows unless the reps are fairly high (which limits the weight), this does induce growth but you should always aim for the heaviest weight moved possible. skullcrushers complement your main tricep presses but unless you can go heavy enough on them without discomfort then I'd stick to the pressing movements. of course if you're already doing chest and shoulder presses on your tricep day do some extensions - depends how your routine is laid out.
Totally agree.

The only extensions I like:

* Barbell floor extensions: very short rom, allows for heavy weights, but painful on the elbows eventually
* JM Press: half the movement is a press.
 

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stronglifts said:
* keep the torso vertical
* lower yourself until upper arms parallel with the floor

Not doing this will turn it into a chest exercise.
If you don't go up and down fully then it's not the perfect form is it not?
 

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If you don't go up and down fully then it's not the perfect form is it not?
going down below under 90 degrees puts unnecessary stress on the shoulder girdle. 90 degree arms or a touch below is fine
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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