"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The Second Date?

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Hey Guys!

I went out with this girl, we went dancing with a bunch of her friends, we had a good time. I never really danced salsa before, but she told me she was impressed that i wasn't shy about getting out there. I waited 3 days and talked to her. Now, my question is, how long do i wait for the second date? Should i skip this weekend and wait for next weekend? Or do i need to strike now?

PS-I believe her interest level is high right now, she called me sexy and cutie and all that stuff.

Big Nick
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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come on guys!! help me out!!
 
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call her now.. or whenever you can and make a date for the weekend... build up the IL some more... then you can tease her if you want.
 
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Isolate, hug and kiss. This weekend is good. Next weekend is good.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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What's going on with so many guys asking about how long to wait before you call her, ask for another date, kiss her, whatever???...

Just one thing comes to mind: Guys, you need to find more things to do in your life. If you had more interests, you wouldn't really need to 'wait,' you'd be too busy to call right away. You'd just call when you had the time, kinda spur of the moment.

I just think that playing the waiting game is a waste of time. Mind you being a stalker and calling her every other hour doesn't cut it either but come on, isn't playing that game a lot like what that book "The Rules" told women to do to men? Didn't THAT suck??!! Why should be stoop to playing the same game?

Just something to consider.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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i called her up and i told her lets go to the pier, she said she didnt have any plans, but she would call me and let me know?? whats up with that??

Big Nick
 
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uh oh. you should have said

"never mind... we'll meet up sometime when you're more sure of your schedule"

by saying that she'll call you to let you know... she's leaving you on a string. and you'll fall anytime she decides to cut the string. dont let her do that. be a man. stand up for yourself. dont accept any less than "yes"
 
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