"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The "second date dud" and Advice for me.....please. (long)
- Thread starter theguy351
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
lol well after my brother texted her last night, she texted me today. i have a development.
she told me that shes been mad busy and the reason that we havent hung is she worked 5 days last week til 9, has school at 8 am, and went to nj over the weekend with her fam.
i wanted to forget her so i came straight out and said "are we ever going to chill again or not"
she said "yea im sorry ive been mad busy"
so i was like "well i just want to know because if its gonna keep going me asking you to chill and you having excuses until i go back to college, then iw ant to know right now...ive had too many times where **** liek this happens so"
she came back with "well its not that, i want to hang out again, dont think its you, im just bad at dealing with work and eerything thing else, i havent gone out since we went out last."
then we had some chit chat.....
so now im like wtf is going on.....
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
theguy351 said:
Typical response from someone who's completely trapped in this situation. Listen to yourself whining, asking her "are we going to chill??" Dude, why don't you take the blinders off and realize that if a girl likes you, she will hang out with you. If you have to call her out like that about hanging out, SHE'S NOT INTO YOU!!
What's your goal here? Obviously you like her and the foundation for any sort of relationship is jaded because she would be C-H-E-A-T-I-N-G!! How could you ever trust her?
What has this chick done that's given you tunnel vision for her? Let's see, she won't hook up with you, she's "too busy" to hang out and she doesn't counter offer......token signs of low interest.
Please do let us know when you fuvk this chick, because I'll be the first one to eat my words and give you props.....but if I was a betting man I wouldn't hold my breath for that to happen.
Plain and Simple: Your wasting your time on this one chick, when you could be meeting the million other hot girls in your area who are ready and willing to have fun with you.
PIMP
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
theguy351 said:
Your mentality is negative and weak. No wonder you were so stuck on this chick. There aren't any under age clubs in your area? I see TONS of hot girls at:
-the gym
-the grocery store
-book store
-down town area
-restaurants
-malls
The point is when you have a handful of girls at your disposal you never fall victim to the scarcity mentality. Meaning, you'll never place an incredibly high importance on any one chick when you have 4 others to turn to. If one girl can't hang out, I'm sure one of the other 4 will be able to. This not only keeps you geninuely busy (Don Juan 101) but also keeps you from becoming too emotionally invested in one chick too soon. It also (most importantly) makes a high quality, relationship material type chick stand out from the bunch.
You need to get rid of your inner fear. Don't have your brother get girls #'s for you, that's weak (I realize this is probably a rare occurance, but still). Girls want the guy who has a busy life, who's always doing something exciting and most importantly is is taking care of his $hit!! You also can't complain if you don't make an effort. If your not out there talking to girls everyday, how do you expect to attract any? I bet you right now, there are a few girls who jock you and you don't even know it because you haven't picked up on their non-verbal signs of attraction.
PS: Drop this chick, she will only use you to stroke her ego now, meaning she might call you every once in a while, but she'll still pull the "busy" card and if she does hang out with you she won't give you anything....
PIMP
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
yea thanks thats some insightful stuff right there. thats normally how i am at college and stuff, but it was weird coming home for the summer cause i go from having girls everywhere to not so much.Pimp-sicle said:
KingBeef
Master Don Juan
Pimp-sicle said:
Well said
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
theguy351 said:
Dude GET OVER HER! Seriously, you are making yourself look like a bigger chump everytime you contact her. I don't care if you had a simple question or not, she's seriously retarded and immature. Don't tell me you can't do better than this b-itch?
STOP FEEDING THE BEAST!!
Last time I'm warning you.....I smell a serious case of one-itis in your future...
PIMP
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
problem is im a bit of a narcissist and i rarely ever actually like girls i go out wiht....i really really liked her....but it figures that the one that i really like would be the one to do this to me.Pimp-sicle said:
In order of importance:theguy351 said:
1) Learn how to spell
2) Type in sentences and not like you are 13
3) Make your stories clearer and with less detail, we don't need to know she picked you up at 5:47 and you coughed at that time
4) Begging for a kiss and begging to the girl to admit she likes you...not very DJnish. It's ok, at least now she knows no other girls are willing to kiss you.
1.) stop being a huge douchebag, this is the internet.DonJuan11 said:
2.) no other girls would kiss me? hahaha thats hilarious
3.) saying "just a peck?" isnt begging for a kiss its just saying i want more.
4.)??????
5.)profit
**** off ****ass
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.