"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Rules girl

unorthodox

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I met this nice looking chick who looks like she using the Rules on me. My question, how do I go about her?

Current strategy, don't talk to her often, healthy?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The Rules girl will play "hard to get" , basically it's an attempt to filter out guys not on the basis of whether they are interested in being a romantic partner but that guys who are considered "interested" will be persistant and be the first ones to make the moves. In other words guys who are aggressive/persistant should be considered worthy of a partner, which works against guys who are shy/inexperienced/awkward.

Only if she's playing "too hard to get" should you "not talk to her often" or "ignore her more."
 

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So my question is (and I'm learning): should my approach to her be same as what I learned from DD, or should I give her a lot more attention, not kiss her ass, but talk to her a lot more and be a lot more persistent?

She's by the way, very intelligent.
 

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unorthodox said:
So my question is (and I'm learning): should my approach to her be same as what I learned from DD, or should I give her a lot more attention, not kiss her ass, but talk to her a lot more and be a lot more persistent?

She's by the way, very intelligent.
Be attentive to her but don't go out of your way to blah blah blah to her.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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