"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Rules girl

unorthodox

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I met this nice looking chick who looks like she using the Rules on me. My question, how do I go about her?

Current strategy, don't talk to her often, healthy?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Rules girl will play "hard to get" , basically it's an attempt to filter out guys not on the basis of whether they are interested in being a romantic partner but that guys who are considered "interested" will be persistant and be the first ones to make the moves. In other words guys who are aggressive/persistant should be considered worthy of a partner, which works against guys who are shy/inexperienced/awkward.

Only if she's playing "too hard to get" should you "not talk to her often" or "ignore her more."
 

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So my question is (and I'm learning): should my approach to her be same as what I learned from DD, or should I give her a lot more attention, not kiss her ass, but talk to her a lot more and be a lot more persistent?

She's by the way, very intelligent.
 

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unorthodox said:
So my question is (and I'm learning): should my approach to her be same as what I learned from DD, or should I give her a lot more attention, not kiss her ass, but talk to her a lot more and be a lot more persistent?

She's by the way, very intelligent.
Be attentive to her but don't go out of your way to blah blah blah to her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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