so whats the rule on bigger compliments such as gorgeous and beautiful out of the 2 month period ive been dating a girl ive never called her beatiful and only gorgeous once and in a flirtatious type way of way because im just not sure on this. whats the rule on this stuff fellas?
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The Rule on Compliments?
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I don't see a problem with complimenting her as long as you are doing it because you want to and not to gain her approval. In other words, don't expect it to increase her attraction to you. But it may please her to think that you appreciate her.
The primary danger here is boosting her ego to the point where she thinks she can do better than you. But if she's that type of girl, better to find out earlier than later.
The primary danger here is boosting her ego to the point where she thinks she can do better than you. But if she's that type of girl, better to find out earlier than later.
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flattery= dishonest comment on something that people already know about themselves (e.g: beauty, hair,clothes...etc)
compliment/praise = sincere original comment...it is earned
source: how to win friends and influence people
compliment/praise = sincere original comment...it is earned
source: how to win friends and influence people
VladPatton
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You can surely do it, but keep it limited. You can later increase it, only if you mean it, when she proves her longevity. That ʂhit goes to their head quicker than JD on an empty stomach.
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When I compliment a girl I make sure not to give the compliment directly to her if she is the type to let that get to her head.
That dress looks great on you!
is very different from:
You are beautiful!
Generally girls that are not so hot looking do better at receiving compliments.
The really good looking girls rarely get compliments from me... ever. It just gets to their heads and makes them more difficult to manage. I have known some girls that within 15 minutes of a compliment just have to crack an attitude because of it.
To compliment her directly is a form of worship and all women are allergic to a man worshiping them.
That dress looks great on you!
is very different from:
You are beautiful!
Generally girls that are not so hot looking do better at receiving compliments.
The really good looking girls rarely get compliments from me... ever. It just gets to their heads and makes them more difficult to manage. I have known some girls that within 15 minutes of a compliment just have to crack an attitude because of it.
To compliment her directly is a form of worship and all women are allergic to a man worshiping them.
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thevilittletroll
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use push pull compliment then push her away. ex wow your new haircut looks really nice, its a shame i only date blondes. i like to mix it with kino...ex compliment give her a big hug then push her away blaming her for trying to seduce you, or say thats all you get, get off me, push.