so whats the rule on bigger compliments such as gorgeous and beautiful out of the 2 month period ive been dating a girl ive never called her beatiful and only gorgeous once and in a flirtatious type way of way because im just not sure on this. whats the rule on this stuff fellas?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The Rule on Compliments?
- Thread starter Stingers
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
zekko
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I don't see a problem with complimenting her as long as you are doing it because you want to and not to gain her approval. In other words, don't expect it to increase her attraction to you. But it may please her to think that you appreciate her.
The primary danger here is boosting her ego to the point where she thinks she can do better than you. But if she's that type of girl, better to find out earlier than later.
The primary danger here is boosting her ego to the point where she thinks she can do better than you. But if she's that type of girl, better to find out earlier than later.
switch
Master Don Juan
flattery= dishonest comment on something that people already know about themselves (e.g: beauty, hair,clothes...etc)
compliment/praise = sincere original comment...it is earned
source: how to win friends and influence people
compliment/praise = sincere original comment...it is earned
source: how to win friends and influence people
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
You can surely do it, but keep it limited. You can later increase it, only if you mean it, when she proves her longevity. That ʂhit goes to their head quicker than JD on an empty stomach.
SgtSplacker
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When I compliment a girl I make sure not to give the compliment directly to her if she is the type to let that get to her head.
That dress looks great on you!
is very different from:
You are beautiful!
Generally girls that are not so hot looking do better at receiving compliments.
The really good looking girls rarely get compliments from me... ever. It just gets to their heads and makes them more difficult to manage. I have known some girls that within 15 minutes of a compliment just have to crack an attitude because of it.
To compliment her directly is a form of worship and all women are allergic to a man worshiping them.
That dress looks great on you!
is very different from:
You are beautiful!
Generally girls that are not so hot looking do better at receiving compliments.
The really good looking girls rarely get compliments from me... ever. It just gets to their heads and makes them more difficult to manage. I have known some girls that within 15 minutes of a compliment just have to crack an attitude because of it.
To compliment her directly is a form of worship and all women are allergic to a man worshiping them.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
thevilittletroll
Senior Don Juan
use push pull compliment then push her away. ex wow your new haircut looks really nice, its a shame i only date blondes. i like to mix it with kino...ex compliment give her a big hug then push her away blaming her for trying to seduce you, or say thats all you get, get off me, push.