so whats the rule on bigger compliments such as gorgeous and beautiful out of the 2 month period ive been dating a girl ive never called her beatiful and only gorgeous once and in a flirtatious type way of way because im just not sure on this. whats the rule on this stuff fellas?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The Rule on Compliments?
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I don't see a problem with complimenting her as long as you are doing it because you want to and not to gain her approval. In other words, don't expect it to increase her attraction to you. But it may please her to think that you appreciate her.
The primary danger here is boosting her ego to the point where she thinks she can do better than you. But if she's that type of girl, better to find out earlier than later.
The primary danger here is boosting her ego to the point where she thinks she can do better than you. But if she's that type of girl, better to find out earlier than later.
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flattery= dishonest comment on something that people already know about themselves (e.g: beauty, hair,clothes...etc)
compliment/praise = sincere original comment...it is earned
source: how to win friends and influence people
compliment/praise = sincere original comment...it is earned
source: how to win friends and influence people
VladPatton
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You can surely do it, but keep it limited. You can later increase it, only if you mean it, when she proves her longevity. That ʂhit goes to their head quicker than JD on an empty stomach.
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When I compliment a girl I make sure not to give the compliment directly to her if she is the type to let that get to her head.
That dress looks great on you!
is very different from:
You are beautiful!
Generally girls that are not so hot looking do better at receiving compliments.
The really good looking girls rarely get compliments from me... ever. It just gets to their heads and makes them more difficult to manage. I have known some girls that within 15 minutes of a compliment just have to crack an attitude because of it.
To compliment her directly is a form of worship and all women are allergic to a man worshiping them.
That dress looks great on you!
is very different from:
You are beautiful!
Generally girls that are not so hot looking do better at receiving compliments.
The really good looking girls rarely get compliments from me... ever. It just gets to their heads and makes them more difficult to manage. I have known some girls that within 15 minutes of a compliment just have to crack an attitude because of it.
To compliment her directly is a form of worship and all women are allergic to a man worshiping them.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
thevilittletroll
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use push pull compliment then push her away. ex wow your new haircut looks really nice, its a shame i only date blondes. i like to mix it with kino...ex compliment give her a big hug then push her away blaming her for trying to seduce you, or say thats all you get, get off me, push.