You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
This happened to you? I figure out as much. You are not going to turn into an instant celebrity and expect to get a tonne of IOIs out there because you've improved your body.The issue with gymcels is that they get jacked but still in their minds they still see themselves as fat unattractive guys (it happened to me), and if you only have the gym then that's nothing.
Being fit is only one part of attraction and if those men don't approach, is the same as being fat and staying in the house.
Yep.... Our fortunes tend to be enriched when we go out into the world among our fellow human beings, rather than binging Manosphere content, the likes of which "teaches" men that The Gynocentric New World Order is lurking around every corner, desperate to pull the rug out from under their/our feet@All_Kindz_Of_Gainz and @Hamurabimbi are examples of posters who have gone to the GYM to improve their body and find that it's easier to socialize because women, and people in general, are more receptive to him and that in turns motivates them to socialize more like a positive feedback loop.
Still any man is better off if he starts working on a great physique yesterday rather than tomorrow.The issue with gymcels is that they get jacked but still in their minds they still see themselves as fat unattractive guys (it happened to me), and if you only have the gym then that's nothing.
Being fit is only one part of attraction and if those men don't approach, is the same as being fat and staying in the house.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Exercise and a good diet are always going to be beneficial, especially for health reasons. It's always better to be in shape than not. But working out is not going to result in dramatic success with women for every guy. It will for some guys. A lot depends on what exactly is holding each guy back, what his stumbling block is, which can vary a lot. For some guys, going to the gym will answer almost all his problems, for other guys not.@All_Kindz_Of_Gainz and @Hamurabimbi are examples of posters who have gone to the GYM to improve their body and find that it's easier to socialize because women, and people in general, are more receptive to him and that in turns motivates them to socialize more like a positive feedback loop.
For me. the hitting the gym caused a loss in BF. I have a good jawline & cheekbones. So the loss in BF brought those out. That, way more than any bodymaxxing, raised my SMV.That's a bit of a dishonest clickbait. He's not really talking about "gymcells" about about male lonliness. I've checked the headings underneath the video, and he broaches topics like third places and parasocials, and of course there is a modern trend where people can be more isolated and just interacting with media.
However, this has nothing to do with going to the Gym for self-improvement. In fact, you are actually leaving the house to go the Gym, would be counter whatever this video is talkign about. If you have a better looking body then you would feel more motivated to want to socialize since you should be getting better connections with women, and even people in general that are out there. It has not raised any arguement that going to the Gym is a red-pill cope.
@All_Kindz_Of_Gainz and @Hamurabimbi are examples of posters who have gone to the GYM to improve their body and find that it's easier to socialize because women, and people in general, are more receptive to him and that in turns motivates them to socialize more like a positive feedback loop.
So true. I have literally received about 2 compliments on my body in my life (I have a pretty decent body). But ton’s of facial compliments.This has been a meme for quite some time:
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A gymcel is an incel who works out, believing that a muscular body will compensate for an unattractive face. Gymcels will often spend countless hours in the gym...incels.wiki
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I don't know if I have ever been told "You have a nice body". Comments have tended to be more specific about parts (nice legs/arms/stomach/butt, whatever). Not many compliments on the face really, only vague comments like handsome, cute, easy on the eyes. Most common is probably something about attire, like "nice shirt" or "I like your shoes". I wouldn't say I get a ton of compliments though.I have literally received about 2 compliments on my body in my life (I have a pretty decent body). But ton’s of facial compliments.
Some are vague.I don't know if I have ever been told "You have a nice body". Comments have tended to be more specific about parts (nice legs/arms/stomach/butt, whatever). Not many compliments on the face really, only vague comments like handsome, cute, easy on the eyes. Most common is probably something about attire, like "nice shirt" or "I like your shoes". I wouldn't say I get a ton of compliments though.
Agreed. At the very least, if you have not gymmaxxed or looksmaxxed then you don't know if you are one of those guys. But it sounds like a crazy investment to find put, esp if you are already over the hill.Exercise and a good diet are always going to be beneficial, especially for health reasons. It's always better to be in shape than not. But working out is not going to result in dramatic success with women for every guy. It will for some guys. A lot depends on what exactly is holding each guy back, what his stumbling block is, which can vary a lot. For some guys, going to the gym will answer almost all his problems, for other guys not.
As you say though, it is a change in a positive direction. But what about guys who have been going to the gym for years before finding the manosphere? The one size fits all "Get in the gym" advice doesn't do much for them, does it?
Just a contemporary, jargonized way of describing a fella as a dunderheaded jock, who's life revolves solely around lifting and whatever sport he's playing thenThis has been a meme for quite some time:
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A gymcel is an incel who works out, believing that a muscular body will compensate for an unattractive face. Gymcels will often spend countless hours in the gym...incels.wiki
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Wow, can't get much vaguer than that. Definitely a positive though!As I was leaving she said: ‘You look nice.’.
Well, there's no downside to being in shape. But it's like having money, it's its own reward. I just don't think either one is going to be a magic bullet for every guy when it comes to attracting women.But it sounds like a crazy investment to find put, esp if you are already over the hill.
There are different levels of being in shape. In shape can mean 24% bf and a decent weight, but it's not going to be a chick magnet with those numbers, especially if you are older and bald going in.Well, there's no downside to being in shape. But it's like having money, it's its own reward. I just don't think either one is going to be a magic bullet for every guy when it comes to attracting women.
Kegger Kavanaugh played linebacker at an all-boy's high school, and evidently it didn't help him ascend at all - he still had to try AggressionMaxxing, and that certainly didn't help with that chick that got him into so much trouble decades later.Just a contemporary, jargonized way of describing a fella as a dunderheaded jock, who's life revolves solely around lifting and whatever sport he's playing then
What so many have noted here was just as true back in high school as it is today... Plenty of guys played on (Insert school team), yet most weren't catnip for the ladies. A guy still needs personal magnetism
By age 15, BK was almost certainly privy to the virtues of both administering and receiving a deep cleansing enema before attempting anal, given his life circumstances. As you though, such know how was of very little benefit when it came to attracting and navigating the ladiesKegger Kavanaugh played linebacker at an all-boy's high school, and evidently it didn't help him ascend at all...