"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The right time to say "I love you"

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I dunno, might be weird question, but how do you know if you really love the person. Ive had my GF for 2.5 months and I'm just not sure if she's waiting fo rme to say it. I dunno if i should or wat, i do kinda love her but i dunno.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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B-Lemond

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NO you don't! 2.5 months? That's not long. Wait for her to say it first. What I did was I got her to say it first but she wisphered it and I pretended that I didn't hear her and I changed the subject. Later late at night, I look deep into her eyes and I tell her "I love you". That was the right time cause she wanted to say it to me but it looked like I said it first because I pretended not to hear her.
 

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Hey, to me it just seems CHUMPING to tell her you love her under any circumstances. Thats just me what do you think?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If you love her say it, but I would suggest waiting till she does.
 

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Originally posted by Best friends? NAY
25th year of marriage.:D
engrave it on your tombstone?
 
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Personaly i dont think it would matter if u just say "i love you" ITs really bout the timin like if ur at a ballgame and ur sittin next to her all of a sudden u turn around and laythis on her then she might get alittle freak out. But if she went get u a pop and came back then u say somthing like "gosh did i tell u how much i love u when u buy me drinks?" anyhow if ur in a serious relationship right now i dont think it would matter. (but im not the kind of guy that say i love u straight up.)
 

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Thx for the replays. Yeah ill jsut wait for her to say it. It's pretty serious, i can see it lasting for a while. Also my first real realationship so i dont even know if i love her, tho its awfully close. Thx again
 

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if you're not sure if you love her, you don't.. lol easy as that, you'll know it when it hits you, just wait it off ... i mean i told a girl i love her after 3 weeks of hookin up wit her (i said it 2 weeks ago) and like shes still flippin at me that i don't love her nd she wont say it back nd she feels like mad confused, idk, rofl, i thought she woudl take it like a normal person, so make sure u know wat the girls gonna react like otherwise ur gonna be trappin urself in a little hole =)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i am me

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I'd wait til she says "I love you". Then you can say it too
 

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we had just gotten through a serious makeout session. I looked into her eyes for about five minutes, caressing her face. Then I leaned over and whispered it in her ear. She shivered, then hugged me tightly.

that is timing, my friend.
 

Joe The Homophobe

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NEVER SAY I LOVE YOU!

real men don't go around telling their women they love them! you're just a high school kid for crying out loud and you been with your gf for 2 months and you want to tell her you love her?

haven't you read the dj bible? you're not supposed to say I love you! people here will tell you otherwise but just remember most people in this forum are posers who never even had a gf and only act like djs in this forum! those in the dj bible are real djs!

handle it like a dj
her: I love you
You: I know :cool:
 

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Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe

handle it like a dj
her: I love you
You: I know :cool:
it doesnt get better then that right there gentlemen.
 

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Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
people here will tell you otherwise but just remember most people in this forum are posers who never even had a gf and only act like djs in this forum! those in the dj bible are real djs!

handle it like a dj
her: I love you
You: I know :cool:
It's kind of sad to see a master don juan on here asking a basic question about girls!!

I mean if your here long enough to get to a master, you would think that you know something about DJ'ing.

Her: I love you
Me: Your not the only one.
: I get that a lot.
: Pick a number.
: Me too. ............. (Pause)............... look at her deep in her eyes, and say "I love myself too"



EDIT: Almost forgot one of my favs.

Her: I love you
Me: Who doesn't!:D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by whyshy

Her: I love you
Me: Your not the only one.
: I get that a lot.
: Pick a number.
: Me too. ............. (Pause)............... look at her deep in her eyes, and say "I love myself too"

EDIT: Almost forgot one of my favs.

Her: I love you
Me: Who doesn't!:D
Now THAT is ****y & Funny! :up:
 

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heres some more

Why wouldnt you?

Thats whats wrong with you

Thanks

So do I
 

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While all this is great and all, there is no right or wrong time to say "I love you".

I usually wait till I love a girl, before I say anything about love. They will usually say it before I do though.

But I don't just 'fall' in love. I actually love a girl before I say it. I might love her like a friend, and then I will say it, or I might not say it, because it might make things too tense, and put sexual tension on the relationship.

If you love a girl as more, and you know she does, it should be ok to tell her so, but not everyday, or all the time. Of course, if you love a girl, but are stupid, just keep your mouth shut. If she is stupid, and you are stupid, you are going to regret saying I love you.

Of course your 'I love you's can be mutual, and then you don't have to say anything, and can assume that you both love each other.

But most people think they are in love, and are in fact, not in love. It's hard to tell. Most people aren't the famous INTP personality type that I am. You really have to meditate, and consider if you are in love, but most people are too stupid to tell if they are in fact in love.
 
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