"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The right time to say "I love you"

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I dunno, might be weird question, but how do you know if you really love the person. Ive had my GF for 2.5 months and I'm just not sure if she's waiting fo rme to say it. I dunno if i should or wat, i do kinda love her but i dunno.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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B-Lemond

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NO you don't! 2.5 months? That's not long. Wait for her to say it first. What I did was I got her to say it first but she wisphered it and I pretended that I didn't hear her and I changed the subject. Later late at night, I look deep into her eyes and I tell her "I love you". That was the right time cause she wanted to say it to me but it looked like I said it first because I pretended not to hear her.
 

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Hey, to me it just seems CHUMPING to tell her you love her under any circumstances. Thats just me what do you think?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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If you love her say it, but I would suggest waiting till she does.
 

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Originally posted by Best friends? NAY
25th year of marriage.:D
engrave it on your tombstone?
 
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Personaly i dont think it would matter if u just say "i love you" ITs really bout the timin like if ur at a ballgame and ur sittin next to her all of a sudden u turn around and laythis on her then she might get alittle freak out. But if she went get u a pop and came back then u say somthing like "gosh did i tell u how much i love u when u buy me drinks?" anyhow if ur in a serious relationship right now i dont think it would matter. (but im not the kind of guy that say i love u straight up.)
 

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Thx for the replays. Yeah ill jsut wait for her to say it. It's pretty serious, i can see it lasting for a while. Also my first real realationship so i dont even know if i love her, tho its awfully close. Thx again
 

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if you're not sure if you love her, you don't.. lol easy as that, you'll know it when it hits you, just wait it off ... i mean i told a girl i love her after 3 weeks of hookin up wit her (i said it 2 weeks ago) and like shes still flippin at me that i don't love her nd she wont say it back nd she feels like mad confused, idk, rofl, i thought she woudl take it like a normal person, so make sure u know wat the girls gonna react like otherwise ur gonna be trappin urself in a little hole =)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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i am me

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I'd wait til she says "I love you". Then you can say it too
 

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we had just gotten through a serious makeout session. I looked into her eyes for about five minutes, caressing her face. Then I leaned over and whispered it in her ear. She shivered, then hugged me tightly.

that is timing, my friend.
 

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NEVER SAY I LOVE YOU!

real men don't go around telling their women they love them! you're just a high school kid for crying out loud and you been with your gf for 2 months and you want to tell her you love her?

haven't you read the dj bible? you're not supposed to say I love you! people here will tell you otherwise but just remember most people in this forum are posers who never even had a gf and only act like djs in this forum! those in the dj bible are real djs!

handle it like a dj
her: I love you
You: I know :cool:
 

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Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe

handle it like a dj
her: I love you
You: I know :cool:
it doesnt get better then that right there gentlemen.
 

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Originally posted by Joe The Homophobe
people here will tell you otherwise but just remember most people in this forum are posers who never even had a gf and only act like djs in this forum! those in the dj bible are real djs!

handle it like a dj
her: I love you
You: I know :cool:
It's kind of sad to see a master don juan on here asking a basic question about girls!!

I mean if your here long enough to get to a master, you would think that you know something about DJ'ing.

Her: I love you
Me: Your not the only one.
: I get that a lot.
: Pick a number.
: Me too. ............. (Pause)............... look at her deep in her eyes, and say "I love myself too"



EDIT: Almost forgot one of my favs.

Her: I love you
Me: Who doesn't!:D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Joe The Homophobe

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Originally posted by whyshy

Her: I love you
Me: Your not the only one.
: I get that a lot.
: Pick a number.
: Me too. ............. (Pause)............... look at her deep in her eyes, and say "I love myself too"

EDIT: Almost forgot one of my favs.

Her: I love you
Me: Who doesn't!:D
Now THAT is ****y & Funny! :up:
 

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heres some more

Why wouldnt you?

Thats whats wrong with you

Thanks

So do I
 

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While all this is great and all, there is no right or wrong time to say "I love you".

I usually wait till I love a girl, before I say anything about love. They will usually say it before I do though.

But I don't just 'fall' in love. I actually love a girl before I say it. I might love her like a friend, and then I will say it, or I might not say it, because it might make things too tense, and put sexual tension on the relationship.

If you love a girl as more, and you know she does, it should be ok to tell her so, but not everyday, or all the time. Of course, if you love a girl, but are stupid, just keep your mouth shut. If she is stupid, and you are stupid, you are going to regret saying I love you.

Of course your 'I love you's can be mutual, and then you don't have to say anything, and can assume that you both love each other.

But most people think they are in love, and are in fact, not in love. It's hard to tell. Most people aren't the famous INTP personality type that I am. You really have to meditate, and consider if you are in love, but most people are too stupid to tell if they are in fact in love.
 
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