"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Right State Of Mind

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Hi guys i have a question regarding my 'state of mind'

Last weekend i was invited to my first clubbing experience. About 20 minutes in a began to loosen up and i kissed for the first time, 30 minutes later I kissed another girl! later that night i had my first full 'make out' needless to say i was happy. :)

My attitude was that I i had never met these girls before and so had nothing to lose, i just went for it and got the results.

Today i had the chance to kiss again, i blew my opportunity because i did not feel 100% confident she would go ahead with it. It seemed obvious as she had been continually asking me if i was 'coming with her'... infront of my mates aswell!.

So as we walked down the stairs of school and went outside i was ready for the move but i couldn't. I just kept using CAF instead of taking it to the next stage and before i knew it she told me that her 'Mum was parked over there'

How do i get myself in a state of mind so that i feel like i can kiss her anytime i want?

I have told myself that she 'wants it as much as i does' and this has worked. but does anyone have any examples of how to get yourself into that '100% confident she digs me and wants this' mentality.

i have another chance tomorrow as we are both involved in a drama club for younger pupils after school and so i would appreciate any info ASAP!

(BTW this girl has been asking me for the last week what i am doing at lunch times and if i'll go to some clubs with her, as well as the look and the hair playing ect... so i'm pretty sure she's interested)

Thanks in advance for any advice.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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swallow 5 viagra 30 minutes prior to approaching and walk around with a pimp cane and smack women on their ass wit it
 

Clarky

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tried and tested :) haha seriously tho anyone else?
 

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Well going with a Wingman always helps, especially if they have good game. Also, this may be controversial, but downing a shot or two might loosen you up.
 

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Yeh i have no problems when i've had one or two, what i want though is to feel 100% confident without the drinks, How do i get into that frame of mind?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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