Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The Return of The Ex

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Hi guys this is the follow up story to the ***** who dumped me, she's back again to make me feel bad and fustrated with myself


while i was in msn, i forgot to block her emails, she started to ask me if i was ok, i said i'm fine and everything is better then ever, the she asked what are you doing in life, i said i'm busy, i have more time to be with my friends and ppl that love me as i am, now if u will excuse i got important stuff to do. i basically ignored her... she was pissed and she started asking if i knew some email and some questions about it, i didn't reply and told her to basically dont bother me

here's what she said

She: Hey, u are being plain stupid, i don't wanna argue with you

Me: I dont have time to argue with you

She. Ok, you wanna pass to the stupidity mode while i just wanna be your friend, ok then do it, but i just wanna you to know this: you basically told me now that i dont mean anything to you anymore and that's disgusting, because to me, you mean a LOT, but i dumped you and now you dont wanna admit that iam not indifferent to to u, u know better than me, that what we had as good for the both of us, you don't wanna admit it so im not going to say nothing more. Why can't we be friends like 2 normal people?

Me: You lost your chance, now back off and get out of my world you are history. avoid all contact with me.

She: I missed my chance? ( then here she started to try to hurt my feelings and saying stuff that are not true ). Your friends told me that you were too childish to speak to me after i've dumped you, you really are a loser, a useless guy, no one respects you, not me, not even your friends, nor anyone. You really are a very sad person. It hurts to be dumped doesnt it, i can feel your pain ( laughs ) then she blocked me.

Me: Me, again being stupid, go to her with another msn and tell her to **** off, calling fat ugly *****, i dont want you for sex, nor friendship, dont ever contact me again. You really think i can't live without you don't you, well, you are gonna have a surprise. There are plenty of fish in the sea, girls 30 x better than you are, now get the **** outta my life.

She: You really are stupid, i don't want sex you, i dont want u back, i dont want anything from you, i just wanted to be your friend thats all.I can really have better guys than you do.

Me: blocked her in all my other emails.


Well, this is truly what happened, translated from portuguese to english, sorry if english is not my mother language and for the lenght of the message. Somebody here told in another topic this happens quite a bit, you ex coming back just to **** with your head, and trying to put you down. Well guys, what she said hurted me and its still hurting me, but i think i fought her mind game the best i could...


any comments would be appreciated


ps: btw a hot girl some days ago told me while in web cam i was cute, some others said i was not their type. Yesterday i went clubbing with a friend and from a group of 3 girls this particular attractive curly hair girl was always checking me and giggling and talking to her friends ears, she was even dancing side by side with me and her and my friend. i dont know if this happen to you, if it means anything or not, but in my head i think she digged me. i will never know that cuz my levels of self-esteem are still down and i was afraid, i admit, i was afraid of rejection. but i will be there the next saturday and monday i will hit the gym since a long time ( 1 year ) hyatus, also i'm taking my drivers licence.


thanks to you all
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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come on guys i need some help in here, some constructive critic, what i did ok, what i did wrong.


thanks in advance
 

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excellent work my friend, you ditched your ex; remember, a man acts in the present and looks forward into the future, not back into the past.
 

Mack Bishop

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yea dont even call her at 4 am unless shes really hot
 

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dude from what she sounds she a complete *****. i think u made a wise choice but not being friends with her. and if the ***** dumped you then forget her azz for once and all. got get them playa. hoez are everywhere.

peace and passs the dutchie
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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quest

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you would have been better to just not reply.

"be the bigger man, walk away"

it certainly applys to this.

argueing is communicating, communicating can lead anywhere.

not communicating, you know exactly where that'll lead. -forgetting. moving on.
 
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