"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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the Return of the Dragon,seeking help from his brethren

DraGon_luv

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WOW! Its been so long sicne i posted i OWE so much to this site,

But after Dating this HB9 for a year, we finaly broke up,

theres been all these little thigns here and there, but all and all i havent called her since we broke up,

i am trying so HARD to do the dj thing and jsut not call i havent called for like 1 month in half, i have dreams of calling her and just today i had an urge but i trying to stick too my principle and move on..... its jsut so hard,

I was a DJ throuout this entire relationship towards the end though i got a little to content and got lazy with myself and the relationship, and stop putting effort in.

my BAD , but i am a man and accept that fact and am trying to move on but it so damn hard, this girl think and probly still does think i dont give a f about the break up, but deep down inside i do ,,, i sorta confused,

you guys have always Guided me in the past, i now return to the TEMPLE seeking guidence


Dragon Love
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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comic_relief

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Welcome back man,
At least you are man enough to admit that you take responsibility for your actions.
 

Hollowpoint

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*Canned response*

In the mean time, keep getting out there and getting numbers and dates. Focus on your life.
 

DraGon_luv

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Since i broke up with my girl i ahve goten 20 numbers dated mutiple girls, and slept with 1 girl, had a lap dance, made out with 3 girls, and i still somtimes have feelings for her i fight THEM withall my DJ powers, its hard...

for the first time ina month in a half.... i got internet back today ,,,,,, also the first day i talk to her... on msn.....

there chat seem to go alright knock on wood...

i dont know whats next i will keep ya'll posted on my story....


This will see if the DJ tecnique of not calling after the break up works or not..... if it screws me over,.... atleast i may be able to help others,,,,,, with my story
 
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How are we suppose to provide you with feedback if no feed is given - what happened??

Never take back a woman who left you - she is probably on an another's man jock already - if she wasn't already when she left you!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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