Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The real reasons women go for healthy men

jhonny9546

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It's well known that women love emotions and can be literally addicted to them if a man can make them feel those.
So, all of us on Sosuave already have an advantage because we've already passed the filter, when know women have a language, and what they say is not what they mean.

That said, we all know that life goes through phases, and usually, for all of us, after 35 or 40, life changes and we start chasing more normalizing things.
I've seen older, more mature women, to get repulsion about that man who has all the qualities to make them feel emotions, like in the past, because He isn't calm and intimate enough to also make them feel safe.
So these women actually could have everything from this man, such as wealth, so he is a good provider, emotions, this is why she chose him in the past.
But at the core of that cycle of emotions, there is something that always worked to make two people desireable each other, which is avoiding intimacy, and be jokey. This is the case when many women report finding a calm, sincere, and just right man after they were exhausted by their ex, even though he made them feel a lot of emotions. This can be re-marriage or just after breakups.

So it seems that a man who could provide feelings, at the same time, could not provide that thing which actually makes women always insecure about the relationship. So this is why these women will have a "life realization" at some point, and will dump him for another man.

What is your experience on why women really go for the healthy man?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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simple: when she feels safe she wants to expand. when she feels less secure she want to defend and protect her position.

translation: i got this guy, what/who else can i have. or... this guy is with me as long as he wants to be.....

safety (emotional and physical) is earned.

this is counter to what we think of as being good.

DO NOT OBEY HER, but do help her when you can. you are not the squire, you are not the knight....., you are the king.

do not love her like a mommy. she is your playful mate.
 

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What is your experience on why women really go for the healthy man?
Same reason we go for women who aren't afflicted with Stage IV pancreatic cancer. The likely ROI on such an investment is more dismal than anyone from the cast of Gossip Girl winning an Oscar anytime soon
 

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Same reason we go for women who aren't afflicted with Stage IV pancreatic cancer. The likely ROI on such an investment is more dismal than anyone from the cast of Gossip Girl winning an Oscar anytime soon
okok! for healthy men it's actually not "healthy" meaning their "healht", but more likely with their life actions and behaviour
 

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simple: when she feels safe she wants to expand. when she feels less secure she want to defend and protect her position.

translation: i got this guy, what/who else can i have. or... this guy is with me as long as he wants to be.....

safety (emotional and physical) is earned.

this is counter to what we think of as being good.

DO NOT OBEY HER, but do help her when you can. you are not the squire, you are not the knight....., you are the king.

do not love her like a mommy. she is your playful mate.
It's unclear whether what you're saying applies to all women, or just those affected by Cluster B.
This concept you mention is simply a carrot and a stick.
A manipulative technique used to keep people attached to you.

I've seen it work very well when he kept a friend, just to make her jealous. It was a very mysterious perception, and everything he did and how he behaved was a tactic.
It's as if tactical men, in life, are simply magnets for women thirsty for emotion (Cluster B).

Think about having to live your life, not spontaneously and genuinely, but being accountable for your tactics and behaviors.
"Success!!" "You deserved a Cluster B woman" (or a damaged one).
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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