"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The real reasons women go for healthy men

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It's well known that women love emotions and can be literally addicted to them if a man can make them feel those.
So, all of us on Sosuave already have an advantage because we've already passed the filter, when know women have a language, and what they say is not what they mean.

That said, we all know that life goes through phases, and usually, for all of us, after 35 or 40, life changes and we start chasing more normalizing things.
I've seen older, more mature women, to get repulsion about that man who has all the qualities to make them feel emotions, like in the past, because He isn't calm and intimate enough to also make them feel safe.
So these women actually could have everything from this man, such as wealth, so he is a good provider, emotions, this is why she chose him in the past.
But at the core of that cycle of emotions, there is something that always worked to make two people desireable each other, which is avoiding intimacy, and be jokey. This is the case when many women report finding a calm, sincere, and just right man after they were exhausted by their ex, even though he made them feel a lot of emotions. This can be re-marriage or just after breakups.

So it seems that a man who could provide feelings, at the same time, could not provide that thing which actually makes women always insecure about the relationship. So this is why these women will have a "life realization" at some point, and will dump him for another man.

What is your experience on why women really go for the healthy man?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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simple: when she feels safe she wants to expand. when she feels less secure she want to defend and protect her position.

translation: i got this guy, what/who else can i have. or... this guy is with me as long as he wants to be.....

safety (emotional and physical) is earned.

this is counter to what we think of as being good.

DO NOT OBEY HER, but do help her when you can. you are not the squire, you are not the knight....., you are the king.

do not love her like a mommy. she is your playful mate.
 

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What is your experience on why women really go for the healthy man?
Same reason we go for women who aren't afflicted with Stage IV pancreatic cancer. The likely ROI on such an investment is more dismal than anyone from the cast of Gossip Girl winning an Oscar anytime soon
 

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Same reason we go for women who aren't afflicted with Stage IV pancreatic cancer. The likely ROI on such an investment is more dismal than anyone from the cast of Gossip Girl winning an Oscar anytime soon
okok! for healthy men it's actually not "healthy" meaning their "healht", but more likely with their life actions and behaviour
 

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simple: when she feels safe she wants to expand. when she feels less secure she want to defend and protect her position.

translation: i got this guy, what/who else can i have. or... this guy is with me as long as he wants to be.....

safety (emotional and physical) is earned.

this is counter to what we think of as being good.

DO NOT OBEY HER, but do help her when you can. you are not the squire, you are not the knight....., you are the king.

do not love her like a mommy. she is your playful mate.
It's unclear whether what you're saying applies to all women, or just those affected by Cluster B.
This concept you mention is simply a carrot and a stick.
A manipulative technique used to keep people attached to you.

I've seen it work very well when he kept a friend, just to make her jealous. It was a very mysterious perception, and everything he did and how he behaved was a tactic.
It's as if tactical men, in life, are simply magnets for women thirsty for emotion (Cluster B).

Think about having to live your life, not spontaneously and genuinely, but being accountable for your tactics and behaviors.
"Success!!" "You deserved a Cluster B woman" (or a damaged one).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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