The REAL reason why you can't get GIRLS!

[eatgel]

You are depessed, you are a WRECK! You feel shallow and Hollow in the inside... So you seek Sex, Weed, Drugs and whatever you can do to get yourself to feel good and get you out of that "STATE" But what happens????
You go back into that state, and it feels terrible..... You thought this joint would do it, the next paycheck would do it, or the next hot girls would do it but it doesn't!!! It's and endless cycle!!! You are sick of it, some people commit suicide, some people live a scary fear driven life with no happiness..... You don't know what to do!!! !!!
I realized something today..... something very terrible about me.... something that I hate and despise so much that it made me sick to be me!!!
I found out that I was such an bad person. I didn't pay attention to my brother or take care of him... rarely if I ever did, I didn't spend time with my family or take care of my mother who isn't in the best shape of her health... I have no connection with my father and everytime we meed I wish I didn't have a father like him or I just plain ignore him... I go to my klasses everyday with a purpose of fukking *****es and being the most popular guy in the whole fukkin schoolll... and If I get rejected or if my class mates don't pay attention to me I GET PISSED!! I get irritated, why not? I am the best looking, strongest and I got many girlfriends so why can't I be HAPPY?
I just realized that I was such a selfish, jealous fukking prick that is just plain stupid.... I despise my ways, my ignorance and what I did up until this point so I think its time for a CHANGE!!!! Time to go do some goods, time to spend some parents with my brother and parents, time to help out all my friends and not just be driven so I can penetrate a 4 cm hole....

 

[BadAssMoFo]

You get it.

 

[LoveLight]

You are depessed, you are a WRECK! You feel shallow and Hollow in the inside... So you seek Sex, Weed, Drugs and whatever you can do to get yourself to feel good and get you out of that "STATE" But what happens????
You go back into that state, and it feels terrible..... You thought this joint would do it, the next paycheck would do it, or the next hot girls would do it but it doesn't!!! It's and endless cycle!!! You are sick of it, some people commit suicide, some people live a scary fear driven life with no happiness..... You don't know what to do!!! !!!
I realized something today..... something very terrible about me.... something that I hate and despise so much that it made me sick to be me!!!
I found out that I was such an bad person. I didn't pay attention to my brother or take care of him... rarely if I ever did, I didn't spend time with my family or take care of my mother who isn't in the best shape of her health... I have no connection with my father and everytime we meed I wish I didn't have a father like him or I just plain ignore him... I go to my klasses everyday with a purpose of fukking *****es and being the most popular guy in the whole fukkin schoolll... and If I get rejected or if my class mates don't pay attention to me I GET PISSED!! I get irritated, why not? I am the best looking, strongest and I got many girlfriends so why can't I be HAPPY?
I just realized that I was such a selfish, jealous fukking prick that is just plain stupid.... I despise my ways, my ignorance and what I did up until this point so I think its time for a CHANGE!!!! Time to go do some goods, time to spend some parents with my brother and parents, time to help out all my friends and not just be driven so I can penetrate a 4 cm hole....

Yeah. ALL THESE THINGS ARE WRONG WITH YOU.

You are a BAD person. Because happy people are happy cause they are PERFECT persons and do all of the above ALL THE TIME.

It's not the fact that you have TONS of SELF HATE and SELF JUDGEMENT. Nope that's not it.

The fact is that all these morals, and things you've heard that you "should" do are right. That's the problem. You feel bad cause you're doing the wrong things.

It's not that you hate yourself, judge yourself waay too harshly, and don't allow yourself to feel at peace and accept yourself. No.

It's all the above things, that god has set in stone that makes man unhappy if he DOES NOT DO. Morals are right, and they control your feelings. Spending time with your family, and being good to your idiot daddy will make you feel all good and comfy inside.

And you're supposed to do all of the above things as a chore. Good things feel crap and boring and wastage to do.

It's not that, with loving yourself, you will naturally be more forgiving, more loving, more caring for people. No that's not it.

Did it ever occur to you, that the FIRST human being you came across, you're TREATING LIKE ****. Which is - yourself?

Do you expect to treat others greatly when you treat yourself like this? Do you think that is how the world works?

You need to give yourself some CREDIT. Yes, you nailed it. You found out what it's all about, where it starts, where it ends. With YOU needing to learn to like yourself as you are. It's gonna be long, and god knows it's gonna be hard, your parents taught you how to treat yourself like this, and for a lifetime you have been doing it.

But if you want real change, not bogus bull**** change, you're gonna have to do it, and it will be hard. But if you want life to be easy, to be a flow, to be a dance, this is what you gotta do. I'm sorry, but this is it. It's no secret.


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[eatgel]

Yeah. ALL THESE THINGS ARE WRONG WITH YOU.

You are a BAD person. Because happy people are happy cause they are PERFECT persons and do all of the above ALL THE TIME.

It's not the fact that you have TONS of SELF HATE and SELF JUDGEMENT. Nope that's not it.

The fact is that all these morals, and things you've heard that you "should" do are right. That's the problem. You feel bad cause you're doing the wrong things.

It's not that you hate yourself, judge yourself waay too harshly, and don't allow yourself to feel at peace and accept yourself. No.

It's all the above things, that god has set in stone that makes man unhappy if he DOES NOT DO. Morals are right, and they control your feelings. Spending time with your family, and being good to your idiot daddy will make you feel all good and comfy inside.

And you're supposed to do all of the above things as a chore. Good things feel crap and boring and wastage to do.

It's not that, with loving yourself, you will naturally be more forgiving, more loving, more caring for people. No that's not it.

Did it ever occur to you, that the FIRST human being you came across, you're TREATING LIKE ****. Which is - yourself?

Do you expect to treat others greatly when you treat yourself like this? Do you think that is how the world works?

You need to give yourself some CREDIT. Yes, you nailed it. You found out what it's all about, where it starts, where it ends. With YOU needing to learn to like yourself as you are. It's gonna be long, and god knows it's gonna be hard, your parents taught you how to treat yourself like this, and for a lifetime you have been doing it.

But if you want real change, not bogus bull**** change, you're gonna have to do it, and it will be hard. But if you want life to be easy, to be a flow, to be a dance, this is what you gotta do. I'm sorry, but this is it. It's no secret.


....

So what you sayin bruh??? That I need to learn how to love and take care of my self? can you tell me the point you are tryin to get across.

 

[LoveLight]

You are way to rough on yourself, and you blame that empty feeling inside on things that you aren't getting done.

It's natural that we think girls will fill the gap, deep down it's a need to be loved to be accepted, filled up, feel we are worth something, feel we are worthy of this existence and everything in it. But then we find out it doesn't fix it.

Cause it has to come from within, you will have to live to accept yourself and to enjoy every part of yourself. It has to come from within. And all the things you mention aren't that important, if you learn to be much more forgiving, accepting, and loving of yourself, you will be that way with others too.

You have to understand everything you put yourself through you put others through too. If you judge yourself hard, then you judge others just as hard, things you don't like in yourself, you look for in others. Sometimes they have it, sometimes it's just projection..

It's the meaning of life mate. It's why people go to spend 50 years meditating in a monastary. They found out nothing worked.. And then they go away from the world.

You have to welcome, and love every part of yourself. Your body, and your mind. Your thoughts ALL your thoughts, even the negative ones.

You have to learn to forgive yourself for ****ing up, through that you will also learn to forgive others.

Surround yourself with an air of love and acceptance for yourself. By and by learn to stop judging yourself and stop judging others.

It will be hardest, the hardest thing you have ever done, but this mate, is the meaning of life. Once you learn to love yourself then life is just a flow, just a joy ride.

The cause of it all is pretty simple. You, along with 99% others didn't get loved unconditionally by your parents. It was by conditions, only when you were nice.. Or did something cute, or was interesting, did you get loved.

You were never loved totally.. You were never loved and accepted for who you are, and for who ever you may become or what you do. And it's alright, cause people have so many problems and worries, and no love for themselves today, that mothers and fathers can't be real mothers and fathers. They can't love without condition, and that hurts the child deep inside. The parents try to change the child, to make it learn something, be smarter, be better, win something. They try to improve on the child.

So deep down we learn two things;

1) I am only loved and accepted when I do the right things. I am not good enough as I am.

2) I am not good enough as I am right now. I am a work in progress. I have to win, I have to learn more, become more, be more. Later when I get that, I will be good enough. When I get this I will be good enough. When I get that I will be good enough. (And this continues constantly, it never stops.)

These two basic things are the very core of the human problem.

When you see a natural, when you see someone who just seems to have a sort of peace inside him, and nothing can shake him, and he's good with the girls, and everyone else, this is why. He has to some extent, been loved more as a child,or learned to love himself more.

Because you have to understand - all other things in the world, people can take from you. Your achievements, the girls you have done, everything you DO others can diss, and make less worth. All the things you've done, can be taken away from you or devalued. But if you accept yourself, and love yourself, who will take that away? Who can take away a man's complete acceptance of himself? You cannot. And so you become at peace, because you no longer have to worry to protect your ego, how others see you. Because your greatest treasure is something that can't be taken away. And then it starts to overflow, and you can give it to others, and others will respond - be addicted, because you are giving love away.

The thing that nobody has and everybody wants!

That's why some persons can be irresistably attractive.

Anyway, the post became long. But this is the long and short of it.

 

[eatgel]

WoW lovelight, thank you so much bruh for helping me out! I feel like even though I am good looking smart and wealthy enough.... I just never feel good
it's kinda hard accepting myself. Which is why I started looking into a lot of spiritual stuff such as the COURSE IN MIRACLES. Is there anyway that I can contact you and ask u for some guidance?

 

[LoveLight]

Sent you a private message with contact info.

 

[Waking Up]

Fabulous post LoveLight. Hook me up too. I've delved a lot into spirituality but I still haven't accepted myself fully yet because I see a lot of the flaws in others, so I know that what you see in others is what you see in yourself so I'm only deluding myself. Haha.

I've read books like The Power of Now, but I need some extra spiritual guidance and every time I try to meditate I can never do it properly.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

Wow,sounds like me....

 

[Analyzeit]

Me written all over it, lol it's so hard

You could even say it ****s up your game in some weird way, if you have this problem you will understand how