"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Real Logic Of Male/female Relationships

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THE REAL LOGIC OF MALE/FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS

As I browse and read articles concerning the psychology of the relationships between men and women it astounds me, naturally as a reflection of the significance difference in anatomy, considering the vast amount of miscommunication and misunderstanding the two sexes endure through their every day discourses. Built separately, men and women are mirror opposites of one another. Having the most testosterone men have been given the role to provide, protect, and strive for sex. Receiving estrogen, women on the other hand have been given the need for love, acceptance, and a role as nurturer and bearer of children. In retrospect, ever since mankind’s creation a check and balance system has been placed within each sex, each having the ability to adequately fulfill the needs and desires of the other in absolute equality and measure.

..........MALE....FEMALE
GIVES: LOVE <> SEX
NEEDS: SEX <> LOVE

While man possesses the emotional need for sex, woman controls his wants fulfillment. Woman, from the time of her creation and her eminent nature, has been emotionally charged for the reception of love from man. Since people are imperfect carnal beings, the real act and balance of this love/sex relationship becomes distorted and remains deeply unperceived by both sexes until life experiences begin to bring to light the balance and purpose of a true relationship.

CHARACTERISTICS OF MEN AND WOMEN

MEN = QUANTITATIVE
WOMEN = QUALITATIVE

Men, since they have a quantitative outlook, feel the desire to roam about looking for as much interaction with females as one can muster. Mostly since only a small percentage of the male population tends to display true alpha characteristics women, as they are qualitative, tend to only desire a small percentage of the male population; those that have adapted to a dominant lifestyle.

DOMINANT SUBMISSIVE
TAKES <----- GIVES

DOMINANT MEN
Jerks use the naturally lower self-esteem of a woman to dominate her desire for love; thus gaining control of the relationship leaving a woman emotionally starved. In her desperation she caves into his need for sex, disregarding her own wants to satisfy him.

SUBMISSIVE MEN
Unlike jerks, men typically termed nice tend to more freely give love superceding their own wants and needs to the point to where a woman feels satisfied enough to not feel she has to meet a mans natural desire for sex.

When you really have a good look at how dominant and submissive men behave; it’s not hard to understand why jerks seem to be getting all of the sex. Jerks, in their self-deluded lust naturally take control; meanwhile submissive men disregard their masculine emotions and manhood allowing women to gain control of a relationship.

AGRESSION <> ASSERTION <> SUBMISSION

At first sight becoming a jerk may seem like a great idea; a submissive man sees the success of the jerk and the women who loathe and satisfy his desires, needs, wants. He adopts the jerk as his role model practicing and emulating his actions until second nature to him; he learns the power of a dominant state of mind. Though one thing concerns this once submissive man with his newly found dominance; remembering the run-downs and onset of his unsatisfactory emotional state endured through his pattern of submission, he finds a balance of submission and aggression within his interactions towards others.
In truth, neither the jerk nor submissive man really deserves any respect in regards to their actions and motives. Just as a jerk disregards the respect owed to another a submissive man fails to regard his own right to self respect. Thus, the jerk learns that there is a middle ground to his behavior, leading to a new found assertive man.

ASSERTIVE MEN
Assertive men are the best relationship material for a woman; knowing when to act aggressively and when to appropriately submit to authority. For most they value and understand the true meaning of respect to themselves and towards others, and ably maintain a fairly good level of emotional health. Most importantly they develop the ability to timely and accurately gauge when to satisfy a woman’s craving for love and acceptance and yet communicate their own needs to a woman in a way she can fulfill them.

MEN AND LOVE
The majority of men have the misconception that love subjects one person to another, binding them to someone in submission and self-deterioration, but quite contrarily love when given appropriately can be a very powerful and meaningful thing. One can look at the many strong masculine figures that sacrificed themselves throughout history and find the motivation that drove them was typically the same; that being the love they had for themselves and others.

CONCLUSION
Lastly, nearly every man with some luck, chance, strength, and motivation has some way to become successful with women. Experience life and live to the fullest as you have already been promised these things with time, and never take a cognitive approach to a new found way of living without first realizing this must first become a part of you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I've been trying to hammer out a post on the economy of sex and though I go a different way with it and come to different conclusions, you did hit one key point that every Don Juan should read and make a part of his understanding.

The man gives love in exchange for sex. The woman gives sex in exchange for love. Whether or not you gain on your return is another issue entirely, but that fundamental exchange is the barter system upon which relations (trade or otherwise) between the sexes are established.

-CyranoDeBergerac
 

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For one I didn't divide Men and Women into qualitative and quantitative. Both sexes have to make choices along those lines regarding their partners.

The man can choose between, and the woman can choose to become the Madonna or the W.hore respectively. The woman can choose between, and the man choose to become the Provider or the Rogue respectively. Choosing the first will ensure their offspring's continued survival, choosing the second will secure the most superior genes.

This will be expounded upon later in my post, so I'd rather not waste time typing out the full detailed explaination twice.

If you have some free time I suggest reading Robert Wright's "The Moral Animal". Evolutionary Psychology might be an interesting study for you to take up, if you haven't already.

-Cyrano
 

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Originally posted by CyranoDeBergerac
For one I didn't divide Men and Women into qualitative and quantitative. Both sexes have to make choices along those lines regarding their partners.
I see your point[ that could be considered more of a generalization, as clearly either sex can cognitively chose which path to take, but from what I have observed it seems that typically men take the quantative approach more so than women and women the qualitative approach more so than men.

Though from a wider view society seems to regard a woman who takes a quantitative approach as a slvt and undervalues a man who take a qualitative approach. This seems to be the case more than not...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If that were true, men would never be monogamous and women would be virgins until after they were....

Men refuse to stick around. Women refuse to put out. Survival of the species through the mating game has been called due to a technicality.

Oh yeah, and mechanics shmechanics. One half of a zygote won't beget a baby and a woman can't give birth after she's become (not so) fast food for a sabretooth.

-Cyrano
 
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rgeere,

I like your comments, overall insightful. I agree with the qualitative / quantitative and dominant / submissive aspects, amongst other things.
 

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You know what, it is wierd, I now see a shift in society, where woman are the ones roaming wanting the attention of MANY males, while men are trying to find that ONE girl. The men want love also not just sex. Infact I know a few friends whose girlfriends are now the ones who want the sex MORE often than the males. I have also been in a relationship like this lately, where the female wanted sex upto 3 times a day every day, too much for me to handle.

I think things are changing in the line between "male" and "female" rolls in society and are now becoming blurred.
 

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Originally posted by CyranoDeBergerac
If that were true, men would never be monogamous and women would be virgins until after they were....

Men refuse to stick around. Women refuse to put out. Survival of the species through the mating game has been called due to a technicality.

Oh yeah, and mechanics shmechanics. One half of a zygote won't beget a baby and a woman can't give birth after she's become (not so) fast food for a sabretooth.

-Cyrano
You're missing the point that I am making...

Think of how a computer works. There is hardware and there is software/ram, right?

While the hardware can not be easily changed (genetics) the ram (an individual) can be molded by whatever software (society) is running at the current time.

Then think of people; they have certain genetic impulses that control their functions, but each individual is influenced by how society is running. It's the same concept....

While taking into consideration the many views of the creation of mankind is not necessarily a bad thing, you can't entirely describe how people should react or behave in a particular situation unless you can fully understand the dynamics of society and it's relation to individuals in the low scale and groups of people in the broader scale. It's like a computer science teacher trying to teach programming techniques by using a chart of the harddrive.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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