the real challenge: ENJOYING the company of women

[dynamicallyidle]

I think most of you are asking the wrong question. It's not so much a matter of "how." It's "why." Do you really want to get to know women? I mean, from the bottom of your heart. Or it something that you feel like you're "obliged" to do? I think most of you feel like it is some sort of obligation. That is the wrong place for your motivations to lie.

Once you enjoy the company of women, everything else should become naturally. Sure, techniques make good guidelines. But there is a player in all of us, that comes out when we feel at ease - when we truly want and enjoy a woman.

So the question is: how do you truly begin to enjoy the company of women so that you WANT to take them to coffee, not primarily for sex, but just to spend time with them? When you learn how to do this with "average" women, your success WILL skyrocket.

 

[whistler]

Once you enjoy the company of women, everything else should become naturally.

That nicely hits the point that many of the guys here seem to have socialization problems. --> i.e., not enough of it while growing up

As it is, they're scared of the unkown, and it shows (to women).

 

[DJinTraining06]

I feel like when im really enjoying myself with a woman, is when i do the dumbest things. If i let my guard down, and just enjoy her company i always say somethin stupid or afc. I feel like u dont get the good things in life without hard work and that includes the kind of women we desire. And if u do the hard work and get the girl, u gotta keep it up or she little by little eats u alive and dumps u.

 

[dynamicallyidle]

You don't need to let your guard down. That is not necessarily related to really wanting to spend time with a girl.

Honestly, if you feel like you have to "perform," even when you're going out to coffee, why would you want to spend time with a woman beyond sex?

 

[DJinTraining06]

You don't need to let your guard down. That is not necessarily related to really wanting to spend time with a girl.

Honestly, if you feel like you have to "perform," even when you're going out to coffee, why would you want to spend time with a woman beyond sex?

I dont feel like i have to perfrom cuz ill be bored and just want sex, im just sayin when i enjoy myself it blows up in my face. Like she is on to how much i like her and its over. if im out wiht a cute girl who is mentally stimulating to talk to, we have some laughs, do something fun, have some drinks. I have to keep my gaurd up or i do soemthin damamging.

 

[Mr. Unique]

Of course we want women. Women = sex, sex = pleasure

But Everyone still loves the feeling of having company around