"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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the real challenge: ENJOYING the company of women

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I think most of you are asking the wrong question. It's not so much a matter of "how." It's "why." Do you really want to get to know women? I mean, from the bottom of your heart. Or it something that you feel like you're "obliged" to do? I think most of you feel like it is some sort of obligation. That is the wrong place for your motivations to lie.

Once you enjoy the company of women, everything else should become naturally. Sure, techniques make good guidelines. But there is a player in all of us, that comes out when we feel at ease - when we truly want and enjoy a woman.

So the question is: how do you truly begin to enjoy the company of women so that you WANT to take them to coffee, not primarily for sex, but just to spend time with them? When you learn how to do this with "average" women, your success WILL skyrocket.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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whistler

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dynamicallyidle said:
Once you enjoy the company of women, everything else should become naturally.
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That nicely hits the point that many of the guys here seem to have socialization problems. --> i.e., not enough of it while growing up

As it is, they're scared of the unkown, and it shows (to women).
 
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DJinTraining06

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I feel like when im really enjoying myself with a woman, is when i do the dumbest things. If i let my guard down, and just enjoy her company i always say somethin stupid or afc. I feel like u dont get the good things in life without hard work and that includes the kind of women we desire. And if u do the hard work and get the girl, u gotta keep it up or she little by little eats u alive and dumps u.
 
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You don't need to let your guard down. That is not necessarily related to really wanting to spend time with a girl.

Honestly, if you feel like you have to "perform," even when you're going out to coffee, why would you want to spend time with a woman beyond sex?
 
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dynamicallyidle said:
You don't need to let your guard down. That is not necessarily related to really wanting to spend time with a girl.

Honestly, if you feel like you have to "perform," even when you're going out to coffee, why would you want to spend time with a woman beyond sex?
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I dont feel like i have to perfrom cuz ill be bored and just want sex, im just sayin when i enjoy myself it blows up in my face. Like she is on to how much i like her and its over. if im out wiht a cute girl who is mentally stimulating to talk to, we have some laughs, do something fun, have some drinks. I have to keep my gaurd up or i do soemthin damamging.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Of course we want women. Women = sex, sex = pleasure

But Everyone still loves the feeling of having company around
 
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